I know alot of people are going to judge me on this but I need some advice. I just gave birth to a healthy baby boy. When I got pregnant my son father left me, he was horrible to me and was never involved in this pregnancy at all. When I was 4 months pregnant, I met a young man, he's 3 years younger than me, im 28 he's 25. He expressed that he liked me but I immediately told him I am pregnant. He was shocked but we remained friends. He knew about my son's father and how horrible he is to me. He was very supportive and basically stepped in as as a boyfriend should. He made sure I was ok, put up all the baby's furniture, took me out, even when I was well 9 months pregnant with a huge belly, he stood by my side. He wants a future with me and when he talks about the future he uses the word "We" . He knows I am not ready to be in a relationship yet. He never forces me to do anything I dont want to do. He was a complete gentleman. He doesnt hide anything from me, his life is a open book to me. He doesnt hide our relationship from people, in fact he lied to this girl at his school that I was his girlfriend and Im expecting his child, so she could leave him alone. People thought this guy was my boyfriend. He came to my shower, came early to help set up and stayed back late to help clean up. He would rub my tummy and my feet during my pregnancy. He got me a very nice, over priced gift for Christmas. My family likes him. I know he cares about me.
Now for the bad part, as my due date came closer, he started to change a little. He would ignore me if I mention anything about the father. He started to stare away from conversation about my son. Our conversations became less and he would sit on the phone and talk about himself but never asked much about how I was doing. When I gave birth he came to see afterwards but his attitude was just wierd. He acts like he doesnt want to be around me anymore. He says that he is giving me space because of the baby but this been going on before the baby. He still comes by to see me every now and then, and we have a date for this weekend....the baby is now 3 weeks old. I want a future with this guy but i feel his attitude is changing because he's jealous of my baby or he feels that I may get back with his father (his father been coming around since the baby born). He as expressed his concern about his fear that I will get back with my son's father. I am trying so hard to make him see that, nothing will change because of this baby, but its starting to take a toll on me and its emotionally exhausting. I feel like im putting 100% and he is pushing away the more I try. I have a young baby I cant deal with this along with dealing with my son's father. He was suppose to be supportive and he is not. He was the same guy who wanted to literally beat up my son's father for the way he treated me. He promised he would be there for me no matter what, but he is making post worst.
He also has so ways that concerns me, like the fact that he acts immature, he can be rude sometimes, the weed smoking, the fact that he doesnt show much respect for his mother, he seems to have a anger problem, he claims he is trying to change his past with the partying and disgusting girls, he gets jealous, and I feel that he sounds almost annoyed if I cant talk to him because of the baby or if I talk too much about the baby. He plays these little games to get me upset or to get a reaction out of me then he laughs and say....just kidding.
I need some advice....I have been in bad realtionships after bad relationships and now that I have a baby I dont want to do this the wrong way. Im new to motherhood and need your advice on how to proceed with this guy. My gut is telling me to just forget about him and focus on my son alone or just give him a chance, he is new to this and he may still want to be around. I am just filled with anxiety, sadness, and confusion, sometimes I feel like forgeting everyone and just focus on my son and I.