Did you feel undatable after your divorce/separation? Piog
Did you feel undatable after your divorce? I don't post much about my personal life on here- but I'm going to put a little bit out there.
I've been single for almost two years. It's taken a long time for me to want to put myself back out there. The idea that maybe I do want to fall in love again, and get married, and build a life with someone is scary, but exciting. But then I think- what kind of man would want to take on this baggage? I have three little girls- so my guard is completely up. They're my priority. Always will be. I have no idea how to fit another person into that equation. I don't know how to open up to someone in that way. I have a lot of friends, but nothing has even teetered on becoming romantic since I've been single (and before that, obviously.)
I have a good, steady career, I'm responsible, I own my own home, my vehicle, I'm clean, can cook- lol. Lots of things desirable in a relationship later on, but I don't know that they're attention grabbers for men like they are for women. I'm not a VS model, but I'm pretty, and fun... And I'm not trying to toot my own horn- I'm just rambling a bit.
I guess my question is- if you found love again how did it come about, and how did you let your guard down enough to let it happen?
And just in case someone lectures me about wanting to date while I have children- no man would meet my children for at least six months after we'd been seriously dating, and unless I knew without a doubt that he was "the one."