About a week after I found out I was pregnant he admitted to me he was hooked on crystal meth and i have been done with him ever since. He did not complete the drug evaluation that he was ordered to when custody was established and has been to jail for drug charges and theft three times since our son was born. Once for four months, once for one month, and the other I believe was a month and a half.
He has a maximum of four hours supervised visitation per week and has seen our son about a total of 9 hours since he was born over a year ago. I was told my attorney that the only way to take away supervised visitations is if the father were a rapist or a murderer, it has to be something worse than drugs. On the rare occasion that we have a visit, the father has been reasonable and allowed me to stay and be present in the room along with the supervisor because he knows and admits that our son does not know him and will feel more comfortable having me there too. He doesn't want to make our son feel scared or uncomfortable and he hasn't seen him on a consistent basis to where our son could get used to him. 9 hours spread across the span of a year.
Anyway, my question is at what age is this going to emotionally confuse/damage my son ? his father has gone for six months without a word, and then saw him for an hour, and then disappeared another three months. I realize it's nearly impossible for me to reduce or take away his supervised visitation rights, so I just want to get advice on how to emotionally prepare my son and what to say to him and what age is my baby going to start getting affected by this? =(