So, I have been single since May of last year...my bf of 8 years came and told me that he was not in love with me anymore, that he didn't feel the "need" to be with me. I can't fault him for the way he feels but it just sucked, because I didn't feel the same. Emotionally it was so hard on me, made me feel like my dreams of a family were just going down the drain. Mostly I have been sad for our son, who is 7. I worry how this will end up effecting him.
So his dad and I are still living together, to finish out our lease and then we plan on finding separate places. Or at least, I THOUGHT we were planning on that, until he comes and asks me if I would move in to his mom's house with him, "as friends" to help her with her mortgage because she's in danger of foreclosure. Now, I love his mom and we are close, so that really wouldn't be too much of an issue. But I just don't know what to think about it! I feel like he keeps trying to maintain that we aren't together, but he keeps trying to keep me close. I don't understand at all. He even has a new girlfriend, and brings her (and her kid) around. I am trying to be happy for him that he is happy, but it is so hard. He's not a malicious person, just incredibly selfish, so idk if he realizes how much it bothers me that he brings this new girl around our son. I am not a huge fan of her personality, and I don't see her as a good influence on our son.
His dad continues to be confusing...the other night he got upset that I wasn't hanging out with him watching a movie, so he went for a run which is what he does when he's butthurt, and he posted the lyrics from a Sublime song on his facebook page "She spreads her lovin' all over and when she gets done there's none left for me..." I just don't know how to read all of this, at all. He says we're through but he acts like a jealous lover, then distant, then back again. Every day is starting to feel like a roller coaster and I just want to show my son some stability. :(