My dd father is pretty much out of the picture. Been almost two years since he has seen her in person. Never calls never sends cards ect. I sent a Christmas card and I text here and there but I stopped making big efforts and we are doing ok. But last year I told him we weren't having a party because I didn't want him here. This year I just not going to mention it but my mother brought it up. I don't live in the same state and my dd never has but I have had birthday parties in the past 1-3 were at my grandmother's and he came to one of those.
She remember him being at the party and she knows who he is.
This year I am having a bowling party and possibly a separate family party. I wonder if I should invite him to that or not bother. Last birthday he showed up with a gift unwrapped . It was a book. I am not saying buy her anything extravagant but at least wrap it. But whatever, what do you all think?
Update: I haven't heard from him yet, I did text him. It is in his court. It is plenty of time to make arrangements for that weekend.