My fiance and I have been together for 8 years. We got engaged in 2012. If I wait for him, it will be an 8 year engagement. Is it fair for me to want to discuss our finances and make large purchase decisions together now? We are arguing because I want to feel we are in a stronger relationship than dating with a ring, he wants to keep all things separated until we get married. We are, and have been, in a long distance relationship - an hour apart.