I am not sure if she is testing me or something else is going on.
My very sweet 4 year old has turned into a defiant creature and I dont know what is going on.
She has tested me before, and I can normally tell but nowadays its more then that. Monday she was very mean to her friends at daycare and had a horrible attitude and didn't want to eat. Tuesday she colored on the walls at daycare (she has NEVER does this) and when I calmly confronted her, she lied about it. She says things like Stop talking to me like that (when Im talking to her sternly about something she shouldn't be doing) She tells me that she is mad all the time. When she asked me to turn up the radio today and I told her no it was loud enough she told me she was leaving and never coming back, when I asked her where she planned to go she told me her dads (I know this is more of a normal thing to say but already at her age?!)
I don't know how to handle the attitude that is being thrown at me (I will call her name and she will said WHAT loud and with 100% attitude) I don't know how to confront her about it and tell her that she isn't supposed to be speaking to me like that.
I have shared custody with her dad, and he tells me that she is an angel when she is there.