Hi everyone! I'm 29 and the single mom of 2 awesome little boys. It's pretty much been the boys and I all along. Nearly 2 years ago, I started dating. It's been going well & he's doing a good job filling in the missing father figure my boys have never really had. He's a very outdoorsy rugged kind of man. He's into 4 wheelers and dirt bikes.. Guy stuff. He hunts and fishes. I recently became aware of my 8 year old and how different my 8 year old is compared to other 8 year old boys. My son is more cautious, plays carefully, isn't loud, destructive, or adventurous as other kids. He doesn't attempt anything out of the ordinary. He's careful not to get hurt. He doesn't ride his bike fast or try to jump ramps. He doesn't build snow forts or climb trees. My boyfriend recently brought this to my attention & I blamed it on me always being the only parent. I've always taught both boys to love each other, not hurt one another. I've always taught them to wait for me to go outside. I've never encouraged either of them to explore or be adventurous. Now I'm starting to wonder if I did a good job? I see how other kids are & feel bad that my two never had that same experience because I never taught them otherwise. How can I encourage them to truly be boys? I so t want them to be afraid to fall or skin their knee or be afraid to climb a tree. I want them to build ramps and scare the heck out of me. I want them to come running and say,"mom, you have to check this out!" If anyone has any parenting advice for this cautious careful mom, I'd love to hear it!
on Feb. 18, 2014 at 1:39 PM