UPDATE: I figured out how to pay for something and he can't quite object. My 12 yo wanted to go see Monster Jam next weekend so I invited sh and his son to go with my boys and me. He is out of town this weekend so he game me the information on how to get them through his work. So I just called and ordered the tickets. I am sure he will try to pay me back for them, but oh well. I am trying at least.
Things are going really well with soccer husband. We have gone out a few more times with and without kids. We went out last weekend after the boys all played airsoft, 2 adults 7 kids, for dinner. We sat together and let the kids at another table. My oldest son thinks he's great, same with oldest dd, the younger two have not interacted with him much yet but they are fine with him so far.
My biggest beef, and I know; it's a small one, but he always pays. Whether its a dinner and a movie date just the two of us, all 9 of us, or just us and the girls after a soccer game. I don't know how much he makes, but I do know where he works and what he does, he's been there for 20 years so I'm sure he makes a decent wage. But I still feel odd him always footing the bill. Last time we went out by ourselves I didn't say anything about it, but when we were out with the girls on Sunday I told him that one of these days he's going to have to let me pay.