This is a letter that my daughter's counselor helped her write to her dad. It took a lot of courage for her to finally give this to him because she is afraid to communicate her feelings to him. I knew the man was an a - hole who cares more about his 13yo son from his first marriage, so I can't say i am surprised by his reaction.
When I get my daughter home from her visit with her dad she looks at me then puts her head down and says "the letter didn't work mom, he didn't listen" I asked what her said and she says "that he didn't like it and he never wanted another letter like that again" She is defeated.
Now I did not give him any warning of this letter because any attempt I have made in the past about her always being bored had been shot down with any excuse he can think of to make it seem like she is lying. I figured if this came from HER and her only that it may work. All it did was get a milder version of what I expected to happen. It would only get worse if I, or the counselor, tried to talk to him.
Now she is left with trying to figure out another way of getting her dad's approval and love. Eventually she will give up and i hope that she is a stronger person for it, but to sit back and watch what i know needs to happen is heartbreaking. How do you explain this to your child, when is the right time to tell her that you don't need his lying, cheating, stealing, drug addicted a$$ in your life. And why do some men do this???!!