I have a couple of questions regarding child support for any mamas who have filed. Here is my situation:
I have a 1 1/2 year old son, and his father has not had a "real" job since before Cyrus was born. When Cy was 4 months, he left Hawaii for 7 months to work on a "farm" in Humbolt, California, only to come home broke... still. After about 3 months, the guy he was working for finally agreed to pay him in "product". At this point I didn't care where he got the money, I just needed some. I was working full time (as I have always done), and it was still hard to make ends meet. A couple of weeks after getting his "product", he gave me $1000.00. He said that this money was to "hold him over" until he was able to get a place (Oh, did I mention he's never had a home since before Cy was born too?). This was the first time he'd ever given me money (with the exception of $10.00 once or twice). About a month later, I asked him if we could set something up at some point where he gave me a set amount of money a month. The number I gave him was approx. $500.00 to help cover all expenses. I brought him a list of things that I pay for including child care, food, diapers, wipes, etc. He flipped out and said that he's not paying me that much money a month. He said "I'll give you $200.00/month, and I have to think about the number". Living in Hawaii is expensive, and because of the fact that my mom (who is Cyrus' full time baby sitter while I work) lives here, I don't have the option to move at the current moment. I've paid for everything since the time that Cyrus was born (with the exception of the money stated above), and I'm not complaining. I just think that it's time that he contributes on a regular basis.
Things were looking up for a bit at about the time that he gave me the money, so 1 bad judgment call later, and bam... baby #2. I'm really not looking for any bashing, as trust me I do that to myself all day long, I just need advice about whether or not filing for child support is worth the fight that I know it's going to cause.
I'm just wondering if any mamas have filed for child support and were in a simaler situation? I've heard that if he doesn't have a "real" job, I'll get the minimum which in Hawaii I think is only $75.00/month. In addition to only getting enough money to buy 1 pack of diapers a month, I know that it is going to cause a huge fight with him.
Sorry, I know that I am rambling. I'll stop now. :)
I called and I guess I started the process when Cy was born, but it never was finalized bc I didn't have his SSN & address. I asked her what happens after I get those things & they said that they send him a letter w/ forms to complete. I highly doubt that he will be willing to fill them out. I asked her what happens if he doesn't? She said that I may not get it. She said that without a job, if he doesn't fill out the papers (she said that they will "serve him", and try their hardest to get in contact with him) then I might not get anything. That was quite a let down. She also mentioned that once (if) he gets a job, being that he will provide his SSN, they can get me child support that way. Other than that, if he is non-compliant (which I'm 99% sure he'll be), we're screwed.