I know that this title may make a few people want to avoid this post, but I need advice.
The biological Father of my two beautiful daughters ages 7 & 8 is asking to be introduced to them. Just a little back story so you can have a clearer picture.
I was with their father for 10 months, long enough to get pregnant twice. (believe me, although my youngest baby is a blessing, this was not exactly how I wanted to bring her into this world). the relationship was rocky mid-way through my first pregnancy. We broke up and got back together then broke up again. Because I am a traditionalist at heart, we decided to give it a go for my daughter's sake.
This turned into a disaster as he could not handle that I made more money than him. That I was very independent. And that he couldn't hold down a job. Yes, i also foud out that he had a drug and anger problem by the time my first daughter was born. He accused me of cheating on him and tried to say that neither child were his. This was his paranoia and drugs talking, this I know.
When I was 5 months pregnant with my second daughter, he beat me and threatened the lives of my children. He was sent to prison for domestic violence. To say the least, I survived and we have not been back together ever. I moved home and had very little contact with him.
Six months after I moved, he contacted me through Facebook saying he was sorry and he'd change. We had back and forth communications about the girls and his place in their lives.
I hope someone here can understand that I repeatedly stated to him, that until he can guarantee he was not on drugs and had his anger issues under control that visitation would be impossible at that time.
After a while, I could see that he had not changed and still had issues with drugs and anger. He texted me a message saying that he didn't want further contact with me and he was going to seek legal council. this was two years ago.
Out of the blue I get antoher facebook request from him asking for me to befriend him.
I have not replied to the request, but I did send him a message expressing my surprise and hesitancy.
My ultimate question here is:
Should I :
A. Befriend him on Facebook and hope that he's changed
B. Go with my gut instincts and not befriend him on Facebook.
C. Befriend him but block any access he has to photos or postings about my girls.
D. Any other options you might like to advise.
Please let me know what you think and how you'd handle this issue.
Sincerely looking for advise.... KGSM