I need some perspective/advice. I'm 26 and due in two weeks with my first, a little girl. I broke up with her father when I was 3 months pregnant when it became clear that if I stayed with him I'd just end up having to take care of him and the baby. We have been on ok terms since and have managed to keep things friendly, but I'm worried things will change once she's here. How do i handle the hospital visits when she is born? I don't want him in the room when i am laboring or after really either, but i don't think it's right to deny him seeing his daughter..can i kick him out after he has a chance to hold her/see her? I don't want him around while I'm resting/breastfeeding, how do I handle that? And how do I handle visits when she is little? He is clueless on how to take care of a baby and I don't trust him to know anything, so I don't trust him alone, but I don't want to deny him as a father and know I will need a break sometimes..what should I do? Oh, fyi he lives an hour and a half away from me. When do you think is an ok age for her to start overnight visits with him?( assuming he can get a clue and provide a safe environment for her) Any added advice on how to deal with a newborn and a clueless, lazy Dad that I'm not with would be appreciated. And also, we have both agreed to do our best to settle issues out of court, and would certainly like to try to work something out before taking that avenue.
on May. 10, 2014 at 2:28 AM