My son is with his father for his annual visit. This year seems to be going very rough.
My son has been gone for nearly two weeks, and last Sunday was the first day I was able to speak with him. I briefly spoke to his father before he called our 6 year old over. Our son asked him who it was and took the phone... my son is not a phone person. So I start taking to him the moment I hear his ear hits the phone. I was rattling away for about 10 seconds and then I realize he is sobbing. It really caught me by surprise and I am speechless for a while. He starts asking when I am coming to get him and if it will be the next day. I get him calmed down and we talk about all the fun stuff he is going to do. Then he was ready to get back to his activity.
Afterwards, his father gets back on the phone and I say I wish I could give him a hug. I merely suggested that he give him a hug for me, if he was still upset. He father flips out and tells me he is not going to hug him, because he doesn't do that. "He can come to me if he wants a hug, no I am not going to do that!" He goes on to tell me that he thinks our son is soft and nothing but a punk. His 2 year old son is tougher than our son, he is nothing but a sneaky baby.
Needless to say I was a little taken back that he would be saying all of this stuff in front of our son. He also told me "I don't know why he was crying like a punk he hasn't said a word about you since he got here."Then he started playing the blame game... You keep him away from me and I only get to see him once a year.... We ended our call because the conversation was pointless and was going nowhere.
Shortly after I get off the phone my son's stepmother sends me a text message telling me my son is okay and back to himself. About 30 minutes later she sends be another much longer message. She reassures me my son is okay. She also apologizes for what her husband said to me, and she was surprised by everything he told her he said to me.
It is so hard being so far away from my son, and so thankful that he has a kind stepmother. My son is different from his father's other children, largely because he isn't being raised by a professional drill sergeant. All in all he is typical little boy. He runs, jumps, climbs trees, and gets dirty. He is always trying to wrestle, fight, and be a superhero or play fighting games on the computer. I guess at his father's he just wants to play with action figures and hang out with he five year old sister, which I guess is frowned upon.
Are your kids the same people when they are with their fathers or do transform into someone else?