So I have been dating this guy for 2 years, for the most part everything is geat. He likes my kids, my kids adore him, we all have fun. He owns his own house, and we currently live with my mother bc of financial issues. I am in school, I work, I have full complete custody, neither fathers are involved. My mother lets us live here but thats about it, except I don't pay rent (only because I literally can't) If I could pay for all living expenses and rent I would already be doing it outside of my mothers house.
Anyway.. he wants more. He wants to be more involved with my family- the only family other tha my kids that I have in this state is my mother and I don't even want to be around her, let alone bring him around her. I try to avoid being at her house at all, We are always gone. He wants me to get involved with his family... they are upper middle class stable, conservative people. His mom cried when he got his first tattoo. He has dinner with his parents every Sunday evening. He has an awesome family. My children and I do not fit in so I don't even want to go there. He wants to potentially move us in... I don't want him to support us, I want to wait until I am making more money- when I'm done with school (1-3 years depending on classes).
He is a great guy and I love him and I could see us all being apart of each others lives.. but I just can't give him more. The only time I can even see him is on the weekends, usually after my kids go to bed, I don't like to leave them with my mother even when she agrees. So what would you do? Just let him go? Force yourself into the uncomfortable unknown?