of my ex and I talking like civil parents. He talked to ds tonight and when they were done talking, I got on to make sure he had heard everything ds was trying to tell him. DS had gotten hurt at football practice, nothing major, but I was making sure he knew about it. We started talking about the positions he was playing (either end or tackle) It was actually a normal, civil conversation.
Then I made the mistake of asking if he had gotten the messages I sent updating him on game schedules and open house for school. I'm trying to keep him updated so he can be involved if he wants. Which turned into excuses of how he can't get time off work to come for that stuff and accusing me of not letting him see ds. Not true, at all. We have no CO yet, I have given him options of visits and he doesn't like what I suggest but won't give me any other suggestions besides HIS way or "you're keeping my son from me!" As soon as he started ranting though, I got off the phone quickly. I refuse to engage him and argue in front of ds any more.
How do you ladies keep things at least civil with your ex's? Or how do you handle it when they try to pick fights?