I joined this group when I first had my daughter and never really connected so here is my second attempt...5 years later! I am a single mom of a beautiful lil lady who is quite amazing and brilliant. I had her under unfortunate circumstances (frankly: protection broke, had no idea, and found out with a positive prregnancy test) and by no way wanted a child at a time in my life where I was a sophmore in college, not in a committed relationship, and not even working. Nevertheless abortion and adoption didn't seem like they would work for me, so I chose to have my baby. I have clinical depression and it is very difficult some days being that I am her finacial, physical, and emotional support system. Her father is in no position to assist with anything, even tho he is quite older than me, he made life choices that has disabled him from being a decent and parent and man quite honeslty. I go back and forth with wondering why I chose to have my child knowing it would be just me. WHy put myself in a situation where someone's life was dependant on the energy and effort I barely had to give to my own self care. I guess I had hoped/assumed it wouldn't be this emotionally and physically taxing, or that her father would have an ah-ha moment and realize that parent is not synoymous with mother. I have a decent job, I am a manager at my company and my daughter is going into a private school next month. She is very smart, loving, and happy. I often wonder how she became that way with such a sad mom, but I am grateful for that. I am glad I am able to provide for her, but I provide every thing for her. I feel like it is unfair that everything is on me, that a man should have an ego that at the very least compels him to be a provider in some way shape or form. Can anyone relate? Are there any tools you have used to get through the tough times?