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My estranged husband filed divorce papers & I have no money for it - HELP!

Anonymous
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Last weeek - My estranged husband has filed divorce papers.  I don't have the resources - time, money, energy,etc to deal with this.  But, I have to respond in a short time period or it goes into effect & he's screwing me with major marital debts.  I've called lawyers all week & tried to get legal aid, pro bono, etc.  There's no help out there for me.  I have to pay for a consult & file papers back.  But, he'll just bleed me dry.  I'm beyond frustrated, tired, upset, stressed, depressed, anxiety......

ok, I talked with an atty this past Mon. She said to call the pornothotary office in the courthouse for papers to fill out that I can't afford a divorce, etc. I called there today & they didn't know anything about this.  They said I can go to divorce master for 500 for the debts.  They're saying there's nothing at the court house to help me.  I'm in pa.  Do you know exactly where/what it's called to get help?  I'm on disability & welfare, can't afford the divorce or anything really.  Everyone says there's help - where is it???

I did find out from prono. office I have a 2 year separation divorce.  The lawyer Mon didn't even tell me that - feel she was sorta a wast of time & money.  Very frustrating.  It's all a bunch of circles all day, every day with phone calls & paperwork. 

Thanks!

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 14, 2015 at 7:00 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 14, 2015 at 7:25 PM

How much "major marital debts"? 

knoxmomof2
by on Jan. 14, 2015 at 7:29 PM

For lack of better advice: have you heard of filing "pro se" (pronounced "pro say")? (I don't know if every state does this or not?) That means you're filing the paperwork yourself and representing yourself. The forms all have instructions on them, although it can be confusing at times. Then you'll only have to pay the fees to file things instead of paying an attorney. The internet will be a big help if you have any questions while trying to fill them out.

iwantababy2008
by on Jan. 14, 2015 at 8:23 PM

You should qualify for legal aid attorney  I think you could since you get disability  depending where in pa you are at

wise.toes
by on Jan. 14, 2015 at 8:57 PM

don't lawyers offer free consults in your area? 

do local universities/colleges have a legal help program?

contact your welfare worker and ask if they have any resources for someone in your position.

cjsmom1
by Group Admin on Jan. 15, 2015 at 2:29 AM

Contact your welfare worker and the disability office to see if they can tell you how/where to get help. There's also an option for you to do the paperwork yourself nd represent yourself in court.

ame4c
by Group Admin on Jan. 15, 2015 at 8:06 AM
I agree. Call your disability office maybe they can give you a recommendations on where to start.

Quoting iwantababy2008:

You should qualify for legal aid attorney  I think you could since you get disability  depending where in pa you are at

WrongWayDiva
by Member on Jan. 15, 2015 at 10:13 AM
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also pop over to the "Divorce and Starting Over" forum on CM.   Read thru old threads for tips on who to contact or how to do it yourself.   Plus, lots of support from people who have been in your shoes.   

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 15, 2015 at 11:57 AM

thank you all - no, I can't use legal aid b/c I have a house & debts/assets.  I'm workoing on finding out how much debt by getting my credit reprt.  But, I do know he's signed my name to his taxes & owes a huge amt.  It's a nightmare.

wendythewriter
by on Jan. 15, 2015 at 12:32 PM

What do you mean, signed your name to his taxes? If you file jointly, you might be held responsible for part of any taxes owed, but if you file separately, he can't just sign your name to his taxes. It doesn't work like that.  If he's told you it does, then he's lying out his ass to you. 

I live in FL, so I don't know if you can do it. But I was able to file my paperwork myself. It all came with instructions that tol me how to fill it out, what to put if I didn't know something, and how to serve my ex. It took some time, but if you really can't afford a lawyer or find one somehow, it might be the best option for you, if you can do it in your state. You do have a limited amount of time to file your response, so don't waste a lot of time getting started on it. 

Also, find out what kind of response you need/can file. Maybe you can simply file a document stating that you need more time to respond, to buy yourself some time. 

Quoting Anonymous 1:

thank you all - no, I can't use legal aid b/c I have a house & debts/assets.  I'm workoing on finding out how much debt by getting my credit reprt.  But, I do know he's signed my name to his taxes & owes a huge amt.  It's a nightmare.


idomatter
by Bronze Member on Jan. 15, 2015 at 1:47 PM
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 I would definitely file an answer within the time period alloted in your state on civil suits. In Texas, a default judgment can be taken against the respondent (you) if no answer is filed. A default Judgment means the plaintiff (him) gets whatever he wants.

File the answer, even then there may be a waiting period before you can go to court on it. That's the time period you need to find legal representation. You, receiving disability and welfare, know how long it takes "poor" people to go through the BS of getting something "free".

Please, for the love of God, respond by filing a pro se answer. THEN do all the inability to afford costs affidavits.

Quoting knoxmomof2:

For lack of better advice: have you heard of filing "pro se" (pronounced "pro say")? (I don't know if every state does this or not?) That means you're filing the paperwork yourself and representing yourself. The forms all have instructions on them, although it can be confusing at times. Then you'll only have to pay the fees to file things instead of paying an attorney. The internet will be a big help if you have any questions while trying to fill them out.

 

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