I am a balanced, divorced woman who has been doing the dating game dance for quite some time now. I met a guy who has a almost 10 year old daughter. This is his first "serious" relationship since his divorce three years ago. I use the term "serious" lightly because in reality I dont think its serious.
Down to the nitty gritty of my woes. I am the first person his daughter has met. I am not insensitive by any means. But I have seen her about 7 times now. She tells her dad it is ok if I come along with them..IF he doesn't kiss me. Ok..how sweet. I talked to him about this and told him she needs to understand that hand holding and an occassional kiss is acceptable behavior for people in love. (She knows her dad loves me). He allows her to call these shots, and when together, he literally avoids me like the plague. If he even comes near me...its fast..and its behind her back..and he has one eye on her. If she catches him kissing me..she says.."I saw that" To make this matter worse, he has her five days a week because her own mother is a loser obviously. I rarely get any time w/ him...and alone time is rare. So, as you can imagine...when I see him I want to hug him. ..be near him...hold his hand.
The greatest issue I think is him. His inability to understand she is controlling him...or him allowing it if he does understand. Would you be offended? I really am. I feel unloved...unwanted...and REALLY not a priority.
Please comment..Id love to know what you think!