he's a cashier at a liquor store, works 6 days and not even 40 hrs a week. has a habit of calling out, doesn't have health insurance and money is always tight for him. some weeks all he eats is cereal. plays a lot of video games and sleeps when not working or playing video games. his answer for everything is always "i'm gonna do that soon" or "i'll do it next week sometime"
now i know that he lives out on his own and he's able to more or less survive on that . and that's great for him. but when your car needs to be fixed and inspected (for more than 6 months) and i ask you when your going to do it and you only do it b/c you got a ticket. video games is fine , i play them, but if you want to talk to me or spend time with me put the game away. he needs to o to the dentist and it's always "i'll do it soon"
now everytime i brought this up ( 3timestotal) i would drop it after that. i'm not a nag. but when i finally had it and broke up he had this look of unbelief. i told him that if he was as serious as he said he was about us and really wanted more then i need more than what he can offer me. i'm not talking money i meant everything else. it's not just me, it's me & my son. i could probably deal if i wasn't a parent.but i need more than maybe hoping that he will eventually get off his ass and get a better job and fix things. he always had the money for a tattoo or a new video game.
so i saw him this weekend and i realized that it was over. that he wasn't going to change, i knew he had "cashed in " vaca time to get a tattoo. but when i saw the new xbox and 3 games i realized that it was over. don't get me wrong it's his money to do with what he wants. but to me his priorities are wrong for wanting to be a family. i would think that since his teeth bother him every day he would want to get that fixed, he's a great guy ad he loves me & my son. he would do anything for me all i have to do is ask. but the most important things that i ask of him he can't seem to do. am i wrong? is it over? or if i give him a few more months am i doomed for more diasppointment? sorry this was so long. but any and all thoughts, input and advice are appreciated.
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