My Saw His Dad Today... I need ur opinions!? (Long&posted to other groups)
Aug. 21, 2007 at 9:38 PM by Emily1985
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The look on my 4-year-old's face when I came in from work today was sheer excitement! The first words out of his mouth were, "Mommy, I saw Trent today in the store!"
Trent is his biological father whom he only met this past January. He was in his life for all of 2 months before he pulled his famous disappearing act again... I feel like a complete ass for letting Kaleb meet this worthless excuse for a human being and I wish that I had never told Kaleb that he was his father.
My stb x husband has raised my son as his own and that is his "Daddy" but i knew that when he started school he would know that his last name is different and start to ask ?s so when Trent popped back into my life after 5 years, I agreed to allow him to meet our son and told Kaleb who he was.
My son, who is very very mature for his young age, looked him in his eyes and said "I understand and I love you but I'm not going to call you 'Daddy' I already have one!" Of course, I didn't tell him that his Daddy is not his Daddy, just that he was a very special little boy who God gave 2 Daddys...
Now I feel like that was the wrong thing to do because now he knows who he is and he knows that he is not there! What do you guys think? Was it better to let him know at such a young age and grow up knowin that he has a father out there and 3 more brothers or should I have kept it from him until he hit an age where I could explain things in detail?
As if being completely caught off guard with the news that they had bumped into each other in the store was not good enough, he just called me wanting to know if he can take Kaleb, along w/his older 2 sons to the movies on Saturday. He offered to let me and my 2 year old tag along, but is this a good idea?