I was put up for adoption and had a wierd life for awhile. I ended up getting married for the wrong reasons, but I was lucky enough to have 2 amazing kids. Although married for 12 years-I never knew I was like a single mom during that whole time. I do think you are better off doing it solo. I have a lot of respect for all of you young ladies who are sounding strong and mature. I have so much fatith in God that he protects us all. My kids are handling my divorce so much better than I ever expected and I have tried to hold my head up, be strong and show my kids a great role model.
The best news about what you are doing is that you will still be young when they are off doing there own thing-you will get a 2nd chance. You can't be a mom and live like a single person. I was in a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship and had No idea that I was being a bad role model for my kids-I was showing my daughter that is how women are treated and my son that is how women are treated.
I am 38 now and can't go back and do things differently-my kids are 9 & 7 and the mom they see now is the one they will remember-thank GOD!!!
Stay strrong and protect those babies of yours from bad men who might hurt you or them. Take advantage of the services that will provide for you-be true to yourself and only take help from those who give it freely with no strings attatched ans you and your child will be fine. They watch you every step of the way :) It will be hard at times, but like some people said in other posts-keep your head up and don't ever give up on yourself.
Blessings and I will keep all of you in my prayers.