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This just became my situation..

Posted by on Jul. 25, 2007 at 5:49 PM
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Only a few months ago, my step father passed away, widowing my mother who is only 65 (he was almost 90).  In most cases this wouldn't cause changes, but my mother has aphasia and a beginning phase of dementia, so cannot safely live on her own.  None of my friends in real life has a similar situation, so I thought I would check here on CafeMom to see if other moms did.  I was surprised to find a number that did, but only after LOTS of searching.  Maybe that's why I found so many groups with only a few members each - no one knew what phrase to search for, or they got tired of searching and started a group.  Who knows?  Anyhow, as a way of introducing myself, and helping to network all of the moms in these groups (I checked and there are no repeats.. I am the only one who belongs to all of them), here is a list of the groups, other than yours, that have moms who are caring for children as well as their parents in some fashion (this may not be all of them, but it's the ones I know of):  Children becoming ur parents parents; Moms who care for their parents; Sandwich parenting; Sandwich generation moms; In between a rock and a hard place.  I will do this same thing in the other groups and point some this way so hopefully more of us in this situation can connect.
Linda
by on Jul. 25, 2007 at 5:49 PM
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misskelli
by on Jul. 30, 2007 at 1:59 PM
Hi there,
Although my mother is still in excellent health, and works part time.  I worry, she is on the computer, and the internet, a lot. (she is 72) . I worry that she will get herself into something that she shouldn't , she almost did until I actually brought to my brother's attention to get her away from that stuff.                          We live with her, we went in on a 2nd mortgage with her to build an addition. So we are all sharing the house, bills etc.  She has been taking care of the bills, but now I am, again, wondering if that is such a good idea.  It's just so hard to put my foot down and tell her that I will take care of this stuff, and she can just go ahead and do what ever, I don't want her to feel like she is incapable of doing the household stuff, I just want o be sure that it is being done.  I had a few calls from creditors about overdue bills.  How do I take over gently?


Kelli
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