i haven't even had my first child yet, and i already get this comment too often. i'm sorry that i cant quit. i tried. i've cut back, but unless you have been in my shoes, please stop judging me. i'm 22 weeks pregnant, and i smoke 1-5 a day. two weeks ago someone i know lost a baby at 23 weeks, and she told me it wasn't fair she lost her baby and i get to keep mine when i obviously dont love it enough. what do you say to these people? go ahead and bash or dont, but if anyone has advice i'd love to hear it. patches and gum dont work for me, and when i try to quit im just too unhappy and stressed out.
thank you so much, and yes, it actually was one of my best friends. or at least i thought.
Quoting shannonnigans:
Oh, it was fair. If someone would say something that disgusting to you....... I hope this wasn't a friend, because if it was, that would be the end of that friendship for me. You're doing the best you can. You have a doctor to advise you. Other people aren't a factor in this. And congratulations!
I don't understand how others can judge, i know what is like feeling cigarrets its the only way, been there, sadly not everybody is going to understand and you have two options stress yourself more with what people say which is going to make you smoke more, or be calm and know that you are trying and not smoking more than 5.
Honestly if you keep stressing about comments you going to end up smoking more, what i did was smoke less like two per day and then 1 and then none, it sucks but i feel better, like i said i do feel bad because i thought i was going to go nuts but it was for a day. I do miss it lol but believe me if you want to quit im sure you can do it ;)
Sorry to hear about your situation. Just keep smoking. I never had a problem smoking through my three pregnancies, but that was in the 80's. Times were different then. I found being pregnant and a smoker, people would come up and chat with you, not give you dirty looks and coments. Smokers would give you a cigarette and light you up, even.
Just prepare now for your kids to become smokers. My son doesn't smoke, my two daughters do.
Its definitely wrong what she said to you, and she has no right to say that to you.
Its not like you're smoking that much really. 5 cigarettes a day is hardly any for most folks, so the fact that you've been able to cut back to that is really impressive. Everyone will always tell you to smoke less, but if you've tried and can get by smoking only five a day while pregnant, then you're really doing pretty good.
So, not that I'd advocate it or anything, but I smoked the whole time I was pregnant with my daughter. I didn't know I was pregnant for a few months and was kinda in denial since I was still a teenager and just a freshman in high school at the time, but I still smoked a pack a day pretty much the whole time. People would fuss at me about how awful it was, but that only stressed me out more, and made it harder to quit. I swear sometimes I think I almost found myself smoking more the more people fussed at me about it - because I was just a teenager and was prone to doing rebellious things like that.
Anyways, despite me smoking during the entirety of my pregnancy, my daughter turned out just fine. If you're only smoking 5 cigarettes a day, and doing everything else you can, yours will too! Don't let the turkeys get you down!
what age did you start smoking???
- MissGore
on Jan. 24, 2013 at 9:32 PM