i haven't even had my first child yet, and i already get this comment too often. i'm sorry that i cant quit. i tried. i've cut back, but unless you have been in my shoes, please stop judging me. i'm 22 weeks pregnant, and i smoke 1-5 a day. two weeks ago someone i know lost a baby at 23 weeks, and she told me it wasn't fair she lost her baby and i get to keep mine when i obviously dont love it enough. what do you say to these people? go ahead and bash or dont, but if anyone has advice i'd love to hear it. patches and gum dont work for me, and when i try to quit im just too unhappy and stressed out.