Pure Frustration ...

Get this book and take notes on it. "Ending the Homework Hassle by John K. Rosemond"

After I took notes on that book and applied them to my child's life ... I haven't had a hassle since then for him to do his homework. I did have to write a note to his teacher and I actually sent his teacher a copy of my notes from the book explaining why my child's homework didn't get done. I know the feeling....been there..done that.

I made sure to tell my son at that time that if he couldn't do well and finish his homework and that if his grades were D's he would be repeating that grade while all his friends moved on without him, then I made sure to set up teacher meetings with his teachers to help me keep track of what he was turning in and what he wasn't.  And instead of no video games during the week we took them permanently till we saw some changes... and if that wasn't enough if he pushed it anymore he lost TV priviledges as well... no tv, no video games, no computer and then he lost the love of his life- his ipod.  It finally started to sink in when he had no gadgets or nothing to keep him occupied.  we told him if he got his grades up and we had no more notes from his teachers regarding his homework he would get one thing back at a time - Parents Choice.  unless it was an A then he could choose.  And then, you have to check... the nagging I stopped and told him well I won't nag you about it, you know the consequences and you will be repeating the grade and you will be attending summer school.  He got the hint :) He's now in high school (10th) and we have some days where he wants to pretend he forgets but he now does his homework almost without asking as soon as he gets home from school... because he knows I can keep track of him and he hates losing ALL of his stuff. he also knows the faster he gets the homework done the more time he has before dad gets home to monopolize the big screen to play video games :) it maybe only an hour or 2 every few days to every week, but he still does it.  hahaha I still have to nag him about reading his books for book reports tho (he hates to read just like his dad)

Great work mom!!!  I think I will start the taking away strategy and see how it works.