Toddler Masterbation

[Lyllismum]

I know this is a touchy subject for some, but I'm in dire need of help. So please no bashing me or my daughter. Thanks! 

In the last few months my 2yr old has been vigorously masterbating. It's quite abnormal for her. Usually we noticed she would just touch and be done. Now it's I'm going to try to stick things there. We've also noticed she's terrified of the dark, monsters, giants, doors being closed, can't fall asleep, has nightmares.. (this may all seem like normal behaviour to most of you, but it's not to my child. We don't talk about being scared, or monsters or giants. ) 

Tonight, we put her to bed and it seemed like she was going to fall asleep pretty fast. We were quite pleased as it's been a fight lately. Well, I went to check on her and she had pulled her diaper off and had a stuffed animal there and proceeded to stick her finger in there. She's never done this. When I went in there to put her diaper back on, I told her that no one was allowed to touch her there and if they did to tell me or daddy. She then told us that people touch her there when she's at grandma's. It's just my mom there, but she has a handy man coming over quite often. When I asked if it was a man or a woman that touches her, she said both. and she mentions the man was a monster and girl was a giant. I totally believe her, and tomorrow we will be taking her to the doctor to get checked out. 

But here's my question, I know there's a fine line between normal and abused children. I honestly don't know what's normal as I was an abused child. Which brings me to my next question, if I file charges, I'm afraid that my mom will come back and say that we're the ones doing it because of MY past and that we're coaching her to say this. I know most people don't believe what a 2yr old says, but I full heartedly believe mine! I take this abuse thing very seriously. and she seems to be behaving as if she has been touched innapropriately. 

Any suggestions? Until I get everything figured out, my mom will have no contact with her.

[jbishop928]

I'm not sure on what's normal and what's not for a toddler doing that, we haven't been down that road, but I hope nothing has happened to your little girl! 

[megannelove]

id never let her go back there at least until you find out if its true or not but i dont think that a child that young would know how to lie about that that is not normal for any toddler to Vigorously masterbate ! id take her to a child pshycologist and see if they can see if she actually being touched ! they would see something like that the signs if thbe signs are present and then theyd be able to help you in making a case if in fact she is being touched ! this is serious and i wouldnt wait screw what your past says get this looked in to

[megannelove]

im sorry bout that last part what i ment to put is screw what grandma will say about your past and waste no time in getting this investigated

[carriebear13]

You need to find out if that handy man has a criminal record if she telling you these thing there most likely true next time she says she been touched take her straight to the doctor to have her checked out

[carriebear13]

I believe wat children say they know more then what ppl think

[Lyllismum]

Thank you all! We have a doc appt at 330 today. Ill keep you all updated.

[proudmommy92]

Thats awful.

Did you notice any bleedimg down there on her?

A child just doesnt do these things and say these things unless they are exposed to it.

Wow i cant imagine how your staying together- i would be going insane.

Gd luck

[ashleybgarcia]

Poor baby. I hope she's ok.

[2bkayleesmommy]

First, my prayers r with u and ur girl..

2nd. I have a 2 year old and she's just now afraid to be in a room alone she says, "I scared" and comes to me but to me it seems normal she doesn't try to put fingers inside her or anything but when I change her diaper she will touch there but nothing like in a masturbation way just in a way like "hey wut is this? And when I touch it mommy tells me no" and it's not every time just once in a while.. More curosity.. But my SO has a 4yr old and says when she was 2 barely she would run to the corner with stuffed animals and hump them and the dr said some kids do it..but if she's saying a man touches her I personally wouldn't allow anyone near her NO ONE but me not even her dad till I figured it out! Good luck

[2bkayleesmommy]

Oh and ps... If ur mom would blame u instead of figuring it out.. I'd be concerned with ur mom..