She's 1.5 She had the issue at home for a while and we nipped it in the butt right away. At daycare however they cannot use the same method of discipline we do at home (we pop her on the cheek and tell her that hurts). They aren't not allowed even time out at daycare, they can simply pick her and the other child up and seperate them.
Now my DD has also been on the receiving end of biting, and sure I was upset, so I can only imagine the other parent is today too. What happened is the teachers were pushing them around in the buggies they call them and they were picking at each other and my DD apparently bit this girl twice.
DD uses biting as a defense mechanism since she can't communicate completely at 1.5 yo. Any suggestions on what we can do when she does this at daycare?
You call me a bitch like it's a bad thing
DD did this at daycare for a short time. She bit two kids. One on the cheek(!) and they separated them and talked to DD about why we don't bite. We reinforced this at home, but DH finally bit her back (not hard) when she bit his nipple. She was about the same age, and was cutting her 1 year molars.
Other than most kids go through it? Not much.
I know my daycare punishes - time outs, no snacktime, etc...I'm all for that.
We went through it with both our girls - they grew out of it.
Thank you ladies. Yes I'm hoping she grows out of it lol She was doing it at home for a couple weeks, and at the "appropriate" time too, when she was yelling mine and one of her brothers didn't give up what she wanted. Dadddy would also nibble during play time, but that stopped when she started biting.
Maybe she just needs to be bitten back? I guess, maybe one of the other kids will just do it. that sounds awful, i'm just not sure what else to do...she's a fiesty one!
Bump. My mil watches ds when I'm at work and he's only bitten twice. He bit me once and I told him no and popped his mouth (not hard just enough to get his attention) He also bit my mil once on the hip and she did the same thing. We haven't had a problem since.
Yep and that's what we do, she looks at you like "is that all you got momma!?" oh she's just terrible lol
Quoting trfgirl56701:
Bump. My mil watches ds when I'm at work and he's only bitten twice. He bit me once and I told him no and popped his mouth (not hard just enough to get his attention) He also bit my mil once on the hip and she did the same thing. We haven't had a problem since.
You call me a bitch like it's a bad thing
DD bit two kids at daycare too. It's a phase and also a defense mechanism.
Our daycare did time outs, which we do at home too and that helped. I had to talk to DD every single day and tell her "no biting" and "biting is bad." This was EVERY SINGLE DAY before going in and before going to bed. She soon realized that it's not nice and apologized to the kids and stopped completely. However, we found out that one of the kids she bit was also picking on her and her friends (DD is almost 2) and that was part of the reason why she bit him.
Yes they are very good there with her. They seperate DD and tell her we don't bite our friends, thats not nice. They usually don't call right away, but she did it twice today before 10am, we drop her off at 7am. I just asked if they had any recommendations or suggestions. I could easily "talk" to her when I pick her up, but she's 1.5 she will have no clue that long after the fact lol
Thank you!
Quoting Loveplusmama:
We do time outs for biting but our current daycare doesn't do those either. My son was the target of a frequent biter. The daycare watched the two children and didnt really let them play one on one too much without an adult. Let them know you are taking it seriously. Are they removing her from the situation and also teaching her the words to go with what she is feeling? I think with time it will go away as she learns how to better communicate those feelings. Perhaps that is the best way to frame it with your provider?
You call me a bitch like it's a bad thing
After the fact, hopefully they work quickly to remove her from the situation.
Experts in child development would not recommend biting, flicking or slapping a child biter back.
Be apologetic and appreciative, but still with Every occurrence, ask the staff exact details on why and how it happened and in a concerned manner, if in hindsight if they saw anyway to prevent it. If it continues frequently, ask admin to assure staff is trained in dealing with this matter. Non-accusatory, as it is not anyone's fault, of course, but honestly sometimes our daycare subs are sweet but quite "green".
As others have said, keep working on vocab and words.
We are going through rage and behavior difficulties with my YDS2 right now; it is hard!! My ODS4 was bullied and bit a lot. Not fun on either end of the spectrum, lol. I know it probably doesn't make you feel any better, but this shall pass, probably quickly.
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on Jul. 31, 2012 at 1:53 PM