11-mo daughter NOT napping at daycare for months
Hi everyone --
My extremely sleep-deprived 11mo-old daughter has been at daycare for nearly 6 months now, and has gone from barely napping (maybe two 30-minute naps) to one 15-min nap a day, or NONE AT ALL. The teachers keep telling me that "she just doesn't want to nap." Somehow, all of the other children are getting two naps a day. At 11 months, she is well too young to go down to one nap let alone no nap at all!
She gets about 11 hours of decent uninterrupted sleep every night. She will reluctantly nap on the weekends, but we do have to pretty much force her to do it, and she does cry for about 5 minutes before she falls asleep for 45 minutes to an hour for each nap. Obviously, she needs the sleep, or she wouldn't fall asleep at all let alone sleep that long. A lot of it is her personality...she is a bit of a social bee and I think the thought of missing anything or anyone upsets her.
I am very concerned that her lack of sleep is having long-term developmental effects. I have noticed that she hasn't gained any weight for over a month and a half, and she always has sunken eyes. (Her appetite appears to be normal.) She is starting to talk and is developing well verbally, but she has never crawled and isn't pulling herself up yet. I have asked her teachers to stick to their guns and make her sleep with the rest of the children even if she protests, and they seem not to want to do that (I am guessing her crying bothers others...but the more they follow her lead, the more they are reinforcing her behavior around naptime).
We did *not* practice "cry-it-out" sleep training at night, by the way, and she peacefully goes to sleep at night with little or no protest. Frankly, she's so tired that at that point, she is almost relieved to get into the crib! Napping is another story -- her cries are clearly of the "I don't want to do this" variety...she is old enough now to express her displeasure this way.
Is there anything else we can do to get her to sleep at daycare that will not bother the other babies? Any ideas? We've tried placing her crib in the quietest, darkest area of the daycare room, and that didn't work. Apparently, going down with all of the other babies didn't work either. We can't put her down any earlier at night, given our work schedules and she really won't sleep more than 11 hours at night anyway. Thanks for your help,