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Weening

Posted by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 12:52 PM
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I went back to work about 2 mounts ago. I have been trying to ween. (My son is 14 mounts old) but as soon as I walk though the door from work my son walks over pulls my shirt up and all he wants to do is nurse. I could really use some tips!
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rissarin
by Gold Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 9:45 PM
Bump!
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cjsmom1
by Platinum Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 9:57 PM

bump

Marti123
by Platinum Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 10:45 PM
I would immediately say hands off the shirt (even if you did not wean). When he tantrums, just hold and rock him through a fit, which could last a long time, acknowledge he is sad and angry. Then when calm, start a new routine of mommy time, focus on nothing else but him, ideas: sing songs, finger plays or reading. Do this for as long as he nursed. When he asks, tell him, "no nurse now" and re-direct, if he tantrums, hold him and comfort him.

Slowly do this for every nursing session, until done. Good luck.

I am just asking, is there a particular reason you want to wean? not judging, I promise, just asking.
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Monkeymama930
by Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 7:27 AM
I like to nurse the problume is that's all he wants to do when I was staying at home with him he would nurse then play etc. Now if he could have it his way we would lay on the couch from the min I get home untill the min he goes to bed nursing or not really nursing just mouthing the nipple. That's what I want to stop. :-) I really need help with that if possible becus I would love to keep nursing untill he is 2 but I need to stop the nipple attachment.
trfgirl56701
by Melissa on Nov. 19, 2012 at 8:30 AM

Bump my ds pretty much weaned himself at 13 months. He was just too busy playing to stop so I just stopped offering.

deccaf
by Platinum Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 10:25 AM

I would suggest nursing when YOU want.  If he isn't actively nursing, give him something else to do.  At his age, he doesn't need at as his only source of nourishment, so only when you both want to should you do it.  He will learn pretty quick that there are other ways to be with mom than just nursing.  I like the idea of finger plays.  Story time would also be a good idea.

mickstinator
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 10:28 AM

you have to cut out the daytime feedings first. i weaned my first son at that same age and it was pretty tough. i would resist his pleas for as long as i could before giving in. he'd get used to waiting an hour after i got home instead of nursing as soon as i walked in teh door. eventually i got him down to just night time. it was a slow and long process, but eventually he stopped asking. good luck!

Marti123
by Platinum Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 11:10 AM
I would either use a timer method then, 10-30 minutes, then done. OR, just push nursing later and later, "not now, little guy, we will nurse in 10 minutes, gradually, over several weeks, push it back to bed-time" I am assuming you were home 24-7 prior to 2 months ago. It is still a big change for your DS! He is probably just trying to cope with the most comforting thing he knows. I would encourage adoption of new comfort techniques, blankie, pillow, stuffed lovey, and always point out the lovey and encourage him to hold it and find comfort in it too, especially when you hold him but not nursing. He will fit, and that's ok, support him & comfort him gently with mommy time and lovey, but just don't cave in, if you told him "no" , no nurse, stick with it, so he learns, the fits will not let him get what he wants.

I know it feels exhausting, but this phase will pass, you will make it through.


Quoting Monkeymama930:

I like to nurse the problume is that's all he wants to do when I was staying at home with him he would nurse then play etc. Now if he could have it his way we would lay on the couch from the min I get home untill the min he goes to bed nursing or not really nursing just mouthing the nipple. That's what I want to stop. :-) I really need help with that if possible becus I would love to keep nursing untill he is 2 but I need to stop the nipple attachment.

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Nighttiger
by Ashley on Nov. 19, 2012 at 11:17 AM

Mine was the same way at that age. As soon as I got home, he wanted to nurse. All weekend long as well. What I did was similar to suggested above. I put a time limit on it and also made him wait, distracting him with other things. If he did nurse, he had 15 minutes. We then found a toy to play with or a book to read. On the weekends, I would ask that he wait and then set some times down so he wasn't constantly nursing. I eventually moved it all back to just the morning right after he woke up and at bedtime right before he went down (I never put him down asleep).That went on until 22 months. At 22 months, I was about done and he didn't seem to rely on it as much, so I took the opportunity of getting sent out of town for work to fully wean him. I was gone 4 days and when I got back, I would let him nurse (limited time) if he wanted but never offered. He fully weaned maybe 2 weeks after I got back. 

Good luck :)

LilAsMom526
by Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 4:13 PM
I would starting weening him off. Tell yourself how many times you want to do it and stick to it. And eventually than keep nursing him less and less until he's completely off.


Quoting Marti123:

I would either use a timer method then, 10-30 minutes, then done. OR, just push nursing later and later, "not now, little guy, we will nurse in 10 minutes, gradually, over several weeks, push it back to bed-time" I am assuming you were home 24-7 prior to 2 months ago. It is still a big change for your DS! He is probably just trying to cope with the most comforting thing he knows. I would encourage adoption of new comfort techniques, blankie, pillow, stuffed lovey, and always point out the lovey and encourage him to hold it and find comfort in it too, especially when you hold him but not nursing. He will fit, and that's ok, support him & comfort him gently with mommy time and lovey, but just don't cave in, if you told him "no" , no nurse, stick with it, so he learns, the fits will not let him get what he wants.



I know it feels exhausting, but this phase will pass, you will make it through.




Quoting Monkeymama930:

I like to nurse the problume is that's all he wants to do when I was staying at home with him he would nurse then play etc. Now if he could have it his way we would lay on the couch from the min I get home untill the min he goes to bed nursing or not really nursing just mouthing the nipple. That's what I want to stop. :-) I really need help with that if possible becus I would love to keep nursing untill he is 2 but I need to stop the nipple attachment.


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