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I am absolutely LIVID.  My 8th grade son just started Character Ed.  It's a required 7 week class that rotates out to other required 7 week classes throughout the year.

Anyway.  It's CHARACTER ed.  That would lead you to believe they'll be taught how to build good character, be good citizens, people, etc.  wouldn't it?

So, what does my son tell me this morning?  In CHARACTER ed class they watch TV shows.  Guess which ones??

Two and a Half Men and Big Bang Theory!

I'm sorry.  But those are NOT appropriate shows to show in SCHOOL to 13 YEAR OLDS.  They promote unhealthy views on sex and relationships, and they sure as hell DON'T inspire those watching to improve their character!  At best they are a "what not to do" kind of lesson - but once they have seen/heard/been exposed to that SHIT, they can't un-see/un-hear it.

We restrict what our son is allowed to be exposed to.  We're not stupid.  We know he hears a lot of bad stuff at school, and we know he's going into high school.  However, our son TALKS to us.  When he hears inappropriate stuff at school he TELLS us about it and we talk through our viewpoints on it, clarify misunderstandings, etc.

Many 8th graders aren't innocent - which is sad - but OURS still has some innocence left.  He's not at all interested in dating, and he actually skips through the "sex" parts of any shows we DO happen to let him watch (like The Office) because he says he doesn't need to see that.

We're TRYING to raise our son right - and then he's forced to watch shows of Charlie Sheen banging every slut he encounters?!  Seriously?!

So, I called and left a scathing message on voice mail for the teacher.  I demanded that my son be given an alternate activity and I demanded an explanation.  We'll see if he responds.

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I made a reply but also thought I'd update here:

Wow!  I didn't expect so many responses!

First off - thank you so much to all of you who supported me.  To those with differing viewpoints, thank you to *most* of you for being respectful in expressing your viewpoints.

Secondly, things are turning out well.  I did talk with the teacher, who did not act as though I "overreacted" and even agreed with me that you can't "un-see" what you've seen.  He wouldn't change his curriculum, however he did provide an alternate activity which teaches the same lesson for my son to research and do in the library during class time.  Of course, this makes me wonder if THAT assignment (that my son is doing) is involving research, writing, etc. and still teaches the same lesson, WHY is it necessary for him to continue showing those shows to the rest of the class to teach the same lesson??  But, that's not my call.  So be it.

For those who feel I "shelter" my kids or that my son isn't as innocent as I believe he is, all I can say is - you don't know me or my family. 

My children have knowledge of the - as some of you put it the "realities" of life - at a level that is appropriate and explained to them by us...their parents.  I simply don't believe that it does anyone any good to be bombarded by those "realities" in a filthy TV show during school.  Additionally, shows like that don't show the other "realities" of life - such as waiting until marriage, monogamy, not needing to get drunk at parties, treating women with respect, etc.  It's all very heavily one-sided on the depravity and unhealthy realities - with little to no mention that there is another - better - way to live your life.

We have very open communication with our children.  They are comfortable coming to us about ANYTHING.  And they DO come to us about everything.  My 13 year old is uncomfortable with the huge amount of nasty cussing that goes on in the halls, and we talk about it and ways he can deal with it.  I wanted to discuss oral sex with him because it's something that kids his age are doing, and while we DID discuss it appropriately, he made a comment that he wishes we didn't because now that is "stuck" in his head and he really doesn't want to think about it.

He's a good kid and he KNOWS what he is or isn't ready for.  When he IS ready, I have every confidence that he will talk with me about it first.  And believe it or not, it actually IS possible to raise kids with morals that they will actually adhere to as temptation strikes - just ask me, my husband, or ALL of my college friends - all of us resisted temptation and a lot of that had to do with our upbringing, the expectations set forth on us by family, church, etc., and simply choosing to not expose ourselves unnecessarily to situations that could end up badly. 

If my sons ended up making the wrong choice - I KNOW they will come to me and we'll deal with it.  Some of you obviously think it's naive to believe that - but again - you don't know my family and how open we are with each other.

My son asked to see the email I sent (following the voicemail as many teachers don't check their voicemail).  It said pretty much everything I had said on the voicemail.  After he read it, he said "OK.  Sounds good".  He wasn't "mortified" and he was happy to go do his work in the library that hour...oh and I asked if any kids asked why he wasn't watching, and no one did - no one even cared.

So, in the end all is well.  My son and I have talked.  I asked if he understood WHY I was against him watching and he said because it shows casual sex and bad relationships.  He gets it.  All is well. 

by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 8:54 AM
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pegleg63
by on Feb. 10, 2013 at 12:48 AM

Good for you!   I just demanded that my husband find any other show on tv right now. The show "Two and a Half Men" just started right before I read your post. Funny huh?  I can NOT stand that show!  I told my husband it's truely degrading to women and I hate that they have a young boy on that show too, with Charlie Sheen acting as he does on that show.

tee-girl
by on Feb. 10, 2013 at 3:31 PM
Two and a half men? What has Charlie Sheen got to say that could possibly be good for those kids? You are right to insist on your kid not watching it. He can get enough exposure on his own without his teacher making him watch that! Urggh
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tee-girl
by on Feb. 10, 2013 at 3:43 PM
By the way, it looks like you have a wonderful kid there. Keep it up
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MikeysMom22
by on Feb. 10, 2013 at 7:01 PM

Why did you assume it was about building his character? Are any of the other required classes actually connected with building your son's character? Perhaps it is connected with actors playing characters like in drama or television or movie making?  Or will eventually show that the things you don't want him to see are wrong and should not do those things because they are terrible. Sometimes it is thought if kids see accidents that happen because of drunk driving or drugs etc. they won't do them. Yes, there are some students that would decide they want to do it instead. Sounds like your son would be smart enough not to, but if it works for everyone involved for him to do some other research in the library that is great.

celticgodess
by Member on Feb. 10, 2013 at 8:49 PM

Good for you!  Parents like you give me hope for the future

DeeDee205
by on Feb. 11, 2013 at 11:09 AM

The way I understand this is that you left a vm and email for the teacher, but did you bring it up to the Principal and/or school Superintendent?  When I was 15, one of our high school teachers had the nerve to show a semi soft core gay porn video to a sex ed class (minus nudity, but implications were there). My mom found out about it and RAISED HELL with the prinicipal.  He had no idea this video was being shown.  Sadly, the teacher did NOT lose his job.  I think I would have gone as far as I could to get him fired.  Regardless, Two and a half men is definitely not an appropriate show for children.  The principal may not be aware this is being shown.  Good luck and keep up the good work on raising children with morals and values!  There is so little left in the world these days.

sheppeymamma
by on Feb. 11, 2013 at 6:55 PM

big bang theory is actually rather educational- to the point that one of the last nobel peace prize winners thanked the show for his discovery and ive learnt a huge amount from it. at no point is any of the show rated R. i can however see your point as far as 2 and a half men are concerned- not educational vaule in that and has a lot of mention about alcohol, sex and gambling its still pg-13 throughout. however i feel about bbt and 2ahm though  tv isnt really a lesson.

Maverick1957
by on Feb. 12, 2013 at 1:17 PM

Good for you!  I agree with your principles!

paganmommy4
by on Feb. 17, 2013 at 7:06 PM

I prefer healthy exposure to things when its appropriate for them to be exposed to it. My 7 yr old watches grey's anatomy on thursday nights ( not the sex part) but the surgeries. She watches CSI with me and Law and Order to learn that yes horrible and unavoidable things happen in the real world. With life there is death. She doesn't live in a bubble. Her innocence was stolen by her father and all i can do is help her to get through that, that no people are not that cruel in the real world and she will learn to respect her body unlike myself. Men do not get shamed for playing the field when they are older and neither should girls when they are older. 

SumthingSublime
by Member on Mar. 24, 2013 at 10:36 AM

You go Momma! I agree with you 100%... I praise mom's like you that pay attention to what our kids are learning in school. I also grew up in a very open house hold where we could talk to each other about anything... I get it =)... I have a 1 year old and my fiance and I just got full custody of my fiance's 6 years old yesterday. This will be completely different for me... Interested to see what he is learning in school now a days. You take care =)!

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