I wake up at 6am for work where I am a Warehouse manager. I spend my 12 hour shift loading & unloading trucks, processing over 500 cartons of inventory, cleaning my warehouse & stockroom, & filling out paperwork. I drive home (over 40 miles) during rush hour traffic in a car that has no A/C, it's 80+ degrees & I only have one working window which I can't roll down because despite the heat it's pouring rain.
The second I step inside my home dh hops on his xbox leaving me to tend to our 2 year old ds, clean the mess they made before I got home, & cook dinner since dh & ds are now whining about how "REALLY HUNGRY" they are. (They think this is hilarious.) Okay fine, I didn't complain, I did what I had to do & got shit done. Ds is awesome I love him, but he's a hyper mess some days so until 8:30pm I have yet to sit down because ds is 2 & he's always on the go. I also worked all day so I tried to keep up with him until his bed time so I can squeeze in as much play time with him as I can.
8:45pm, I just got ds into bed & it is the first time I sit down for the day if you don't include my drive to/from work & not a full minute passes before dh (still playing his xbox) asks me to go grab him a beer. Um.... NO. At this point all I want is 10 minutes to sit down without interuption. Then I get a condecending comment on how it's rediculous how tired I am.
I work my ass off at work. With my job there is no way to get it done without doing so. Dh I think should understand this. I didn't make snotty comments complaining on how tired he was when he used to have a physically demanding job. Why is it okay for him to do that to me now? Now he is a carpenter & most days only completes 3 work orders a day. On my lunch break I see on facebook he's posted numerous accomplishments on app games he's been playing on his phone because he has so much free time at work that's what he does. Along with watching movies & TV off his Netflix app & going fishing AT WORK. If he doesn't want me to be tired at the end of the day maybe he should recognize I work harder than he does & my work doesn't end when I get off the clock & he should step up to help with the house & our ds. Is that too much to ask for?
He needs to choose what he wants because I can be a house wife if that's what he wants. I'll quit my job in a heart beat if it were an option. Or if he wants me to continue to be financially supportive & do my damn job he needs to recognize there will be days when I'm tired & fed up with this crap. If any of you can deal with days like this on a daily basis I tip my hat off to you. After going through this routine day after day for over a year now, I am fed up.