DH has stated on multiple occasions (recently when he woke up to homemade muffins), "I wish I could make enough money, you could just do this all the time" soooooooo, I know some of us choose to work, some of must work, some us it's a little of both, BUT
If the only factor was your SO's opinion, would he/she want you to be a SAHM?
Quoting the3Rs:
He would want us to be independently wealthy so we could both not work, LOL.
This goes without saying! LOL!
DH would want me to be SAHM. It's been a sore spot between us because I stayed home until DD was 19 months old before going back to work. I missed working and having something of my own and I felt completely isolated and was depressed at home. He didn't understand that or the feeling of helplessness and despair I sometimes had.
Quoting the3Rs:
He would want us to be independently wealthy so we could both not work, LOL.
Quoting CorpCityGrl:
This goes without saying! LOL!
DH would want me to be SAHM. It's been a sore spot between us because I stayed home until DD was 19 months old before going back to work. I missed working and having something of my own and I felt completely isolated and was depressed at home. He didn't understand that or the feeling of helplessness and despair I sometimes had.
Quoting the3Rs:
He would want us to be independently wealthy so we could both not work, LOL.
I know he wishes I could be a SAHM but it's just not in the cards.
DH and I both would like for me to be a sahm but it's not something we can afford right now.
It is hard to understand unless you've been there! DH though thinks being a SAHM mom is a piece of cake and that you are living a relaxed life. One day at home with DD and he complains!
I liked spending time with DD, but I didn't like the fact that I felt like I had no other outlet and was isolated despite us living in a big city. I felt like I had lost my identity and it was rough - especially since I was home by myself all day, every day while DH was away in training. It was just a different experience for me and hard since most SAHM have someone that comes home at the end of the day and I didn't at the time.
Ideally, I would work part-time.
Quoting Marti123:
Oh, that is tough, it's probably so hard to understand until you have been there!
Quoting CorpCityGrl:
This goes without saying! LOL!
DH would want me to be SAHM. It's been a sore spot between us because I stayed home until DD was 19 months old before going back to work. I missed working and having something of my own and I felt completely isolated and was depressed at home. He didn't understand that or the feeling of helplessness and despair I sometimes had.
Quoting the3Rs:
He would want us to be independently wealthy so we could both not work, LOL.
Well this, obviously! :)
But in real life, DH knows that I would go crazy being a SAHM. I really admire the moms who do it and stay sane. I can't do it. I went nuts on maternity leave and went back to work sooner than originally planned. I wish I had a cleaner house and had more time in the evenings to cook a better supper....but SAHM is not the life for me. Now, DH on the other hand would be an AWESOME sahd.
Quoting the3Rs:
He would want us to be independently wealthy so we could both not work, LOL.
Quoting the3Rs:
Seriously though, the one year that I actually was a SAHM was an awesome year. He felt good being the provider for once, I loved not working (though I did occasionally sub). But we realized I needed to work to pay off debt & ultimately I am the higher wage earner, so it was only that one year that I didn't work.
I know he wishes I could be a SAHM but it's just not in the cards.
Shana Tovah!
- Marti123
on Oct. 25, 2013 at 9:16 AM