Taking the skids on family vacation - longish
I know some of these posts probably should go in the stepmom central group, but really, they are so mean and hateful over there sometimes, I just don't want to post there anymore.
So here's the scoop: Most of you know my skid situation. SS20 in the Navy, SS19 in college living with my parents, SS17 lives with BM, SD15 lives with DH and me. DH and I also have DS8 together.
We usually take the kids on a vacation every year. Honestly, it's more of a trip than a vacation. It's not fun for me. It's really expensive (my money), it's a lot of work, and frankly I get tired of the shitty teenage attitudes.
This year we are going on a vacation that is almost identical to one we took about 6 years ago. The reason we're doing the same vacation is because DS wants to go to Disneyland, wants to go to the desert, a national part, and see dinosaur bones. Palm Springs for a few days (desert, hiking, etc), then Disneyland and the beach for a couple of days. The first time we did it, DS was so little he stayed home with my mom. It was DH, me, and the skids. All I heard was bitching from them. It's hot, how much longer are we going to be in the car, this is boring (That one was at La Brea tar pits, which we are also doing again, at DS's request).
Bottom line - I really am not in the mood to shell out all this money to take these whiny teenaged skids on vacation, ESPECIALLY since they can't be bothered to help out around the house at all. Now, I know ss19 and ss20 don't live there, but when they were home at Christmas they did NOTHING. Not even clean up their own messes. They made comments to SD such as "I'm not doing any dishes. This is my vacation. You can do them." I have been asking for 2 1/2 weeks for SD to clean her bathroom and it still isn't done. No one shovels snow. No one puts away their clean laundry, let alone does any of the washing or drying or folding. It just sits in the laundry room waiting to be worn.
I have explained my feelings to DH, and he does not disagree with how I feel or why I feel that way. I gave him specific examples, etc......But, we are at an impasse as to how to proceed.
Is it bad of me to think that way? Any ideas? Thanks.