How do you ladies handle tough situations with other co-workers without coming off as snippy or witchy? I've been having trouble with a co-worker taking control of aspects of my projects that's not her responsibilities. On a previous project, I addressed it with my boss. His comments were, "We'll you're working with a headstrong producer. It's probably too far along on this project to do anything, but I'll address it." I ended up taking the heat for some things she did incorrectly and was scolded that I needed to get control of the project!
I was out on vacation last week and checked emails tonight to find she'd just totally taken over some things I'd requested not be touched until I returned. I feel like I have to stand up for myself, but I don't want to sound like I'm attacking her. How do you all do it?