One of the first things I'll tell you is that we rarely ever tell our DS "no" when he does something wrong unless it is a dangerous situation, like touching hot stove, grill or running in street. I think if you save that word for emergencies only, they don't repeat it as much. Usually we just say "We don't ____; or, that's not how we ____", etc. Basically telling him he did wrong w/o saying "no". Seems to work. Our son will be 3 in a couple of weeks and he has never told me or DH "no"! He has a playmate the same age that says NO to him parents all the time, but I hear them tell him NO all the time too. Just a thought. I try to re-direct DS to something he CAN do.
We also only spank for the serious dangerous stuff (like what I listed earlier). And when we do, we get down on his eye level and say, for example "You do not run away from mommy. You HAVE to hold mommy's hand" and then comes one swift swat on the hiney. If it was him wanting to touch stove or grill, we do same thing except he gets a swat on his hand instead.
We try not to ever yell at him when he is in trouble. We have stern, quiet voices and get on eye level to tell him why he is in trouble. Also, whenever DS is about to have a fit over something, I just ask him "You can either go stand in the corner or you can ________(whatever it is I wanted him to do, or whatever alternative I am giving him)". That usually always stops him in his tracks, LOL. The tears stop, the screaming stops, and he walks off to find something else to do. When he does have to go in time out (the corner), I just take him by the arm and put him there w/o saying a word. When his time is up, I walk over and kneel in front of him and very quietly, but seriously, explain why he was in time-out (short & sweet) and then drop the subject and go back to being happy mommy.
Sorry you are having a rough time. I know boys have lots of extra pent up energy...are you guys getting out enough to let him burn off all that energy? I know where I live the heat index is like over 100, so we can't play outside alot (unless we go to someone's pool), but I try to take him to indoor play places or even to the mall to walk around and play in the little playground by the food court. Good luck, momma! :-)
Well my son was bad at that ago too. But spanking is just going to make him act out more. Im not trying to say anything bad about you, but I am a child Development major and I to have spanked before but I don't anymore and I can tell a difference in hot he acts out and how often. The terrible 2's is just part of their Development that they are going to go through. I would just ignore my son some times when he is having his fits because usually they just do it for attention and to test you mostly.
What age for a toddler bed? Updated Pictures
- Maria0607
on Jul. 26, 2010 at 11:13 PM