my 4 year old is in a class with a boy that keeps calling him names like B*&^ and idiot,stupid and bad boy. I have spoken to the teacher but she said she said my son never told her. I spoke to the teachers aid today and asked her about what was going on in the class and she said it was getting better between the two of them but they have to keep them apart. I said is he still calling my son names and her response was not as much as before! She also told me that they thought the boy was disturbed but need the school to evaluate him. Today my son said he was punched by him but the teacher didnt say anything. SHould I pull him from the classroom and see if I can change teachers. My son loves her and never wants to leave and sometimes I will see him playing with the other boy(though he says he is always mean to him). I just dont get what is going on.
Rose
My knee-jerk reaction says pull him from the class, but I don;t think that's the answer. If your son is really comfortable with that teacher, I would keep him in there. A new class means getting used to a whole new group of kids & teachers. I would just push for this other child to get evaluated or removed from the class. That child is the problem, not your son. Have you spoken to anyone higher up besides the teacher? Maybe the director of the school? Good luck and I hope it all works out.
I would want to pull him out, but then again if he really likes his teacher then leave me.
See if you can set up a meeting with the teacher and admistrator at the same time. Just openly discuss what's going on and that your son loves his teacher. Ask how the problem with the other boy is being addressed. Maybe this will move them off of "pause" and actually do something with the other child. Life is too short for this to drag on when steps can be taken to make everyone have a great school day!
That is totally unaccaeptable behavior. I don't know where you live, but that would not be tolerated where I live. He's 4? Is this K or daycare? If it's K, I would ask for a meeting with the Principle immediately. They should have very specific regulations regarding this type of problem. If it's daycare, I'd speak to the owner. Sounds to me more like a bad home environment for this child--he's learning that behavior somewhere. Not doing anything doesn't help him or your son and they should know that....be firm momma. :-)
u will never know what is going know cos theres noone to tell u and u are not there to see.yr son will tell u some of the truth,the half that he sees as the truth ahnd he will naturally but unconsciously use the events to his benefit.we all do it when we tell the events we took part in to someone that didnt.theres no objedctivity.this is tha problem that judges on the courts of justice come across with witnesses.every witness tell subconscious lies and some tell lies deliberately.even detectives tell lies.and so does the teachers.only cameras tell the truth.so i suggest u install a sound cammera on yr son without him knowing of it.he may think its something else,a toy.u must fool the teacher too.i know this is possible but very costly.the other way is pull yr boy out of the environment.the third solution is u leave him there and give him the oportunit;y to learn on his skin what the REAL world is like.but in this case u should talk to a childrens psychologist about whether it is too early for yr son at his age to be expossed to the REAL world.i dont think u should talk to the parents of the other disturbed boy.and u should look into the matter,as to whether the school or whatever the institution where the class is,is allowed by the law to have a disturbed child together with normal children and thus endanger the normal children.but u probably dont want to spoil yr realations with the institution,because it probably suits u for more than one reason,being that yr son likes the teacheer.i think the teacher(s) is/are not taking good care of the class.otherwise she/they would know wht is going on in there.the children are not so small at the age of four and so they are pprobably being left by the teachers unattended by an adult,which is inexcusable cos anything may happen,and yr boy can have very bad life experiences from being BULLYING AT SUCH A TENDER AGE.and where is his father? yr boy,without adult male presence in his life to look at as good examploe of male behaviour and conduct at bullying...is being left alone in the wild wind.u cant fill the void cos he needs u as tender female,mummy,and not a surogat dad.sorry for being blunt,but u asked for honesty.my son did not have such a father thou he was present kin of.read my introductory note,i joined yesterday.i know how u feel and i am sorry for u.and mind u,i believe that no other man at this age of yr son can fill the void that yr boys father left.i went throu this when i was young mom with only boy and bad husband/father of my son.my son never learned to answer properly to bullying.he has never been in a mens fight.i never bought him a toy for mimicking fighting of any sort.i wanted him an intellectual.he is very educated and intelligent,he has a grade at the university of hujman sciences,but he cant cope with other men.he survived ok but now that he has a baby son he say he want him to rather be a bully than bullied... so now only do i know what was bothering him when he was little.he didnt tell me then.and this is all becaue of bad fathers including the absent ones like probably is yours... i wish u success in making yr boy a man that is not afraid of other men.my boy is now 32 and when theres a problem with another man he draws back and pays even if he dooesnt owe.so my; conclussion is that women should take better attention with whom they are having children.for this applies to daughters of such men too.they never learn to opress to nasty mean men.cos they didnt have a dad that was a PROTECTOR as well as PROVIDER.but such men are rare.well,marriage with only two people married is not common in nature among animals and we belong to the animal world,as clever and emotional as we are,but still animals.chimpanzees that are our closest cousins,dont heve marriages of two individuals.an alpha male ha several wives.and theres no love and jealosy on the part of the wives.christmas is tomorrow but it doesnt mean that christs birthday should be more important to u than yr sons happiness and mental and emotional wellness.so i told u the truth about the marriage thou the church says other thing.lies mostly.the highest lie being that christ was god.theres no god my dear.
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