All the time, day or night, private or public... uurrrggg! I dont want to embarrass him or make him feel like its unnatural..only that its not appropriate outside his own private time..hes 3 and its getting embarrassing! Sometimes I make him sit on his hands for a few minutes, but its getting out of hand! Anyone else have this problem?
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My son is four. We do not have this issue. He has tried it a couple of times, but we explained to him that he cannot play with his penis in public. We told him that he is allowed to play with his penis in his room or in his bathroom, but never in front of Momma or Daddy. We have told him there is nothing wrong with playing with his penis, but that it is a private thing. So far this has worked. I just cannot stand hands down pants! My brother used to do this all the time! He always had his hands down his pants as a kid and my parents never reprimanded him for it. I vowed I would never have a child do that and I plan to stick to that.
Amy
My 3 yr old doesn't put his hands inside of his pants, but constantly grabs the outside. Every time I see it, I ask him if he has to go potty. When he gets sick of my asking and yells, "No!" I say "well then, why are you holding yourself?" He says "I'm not" and lets go and plays with his toys.
At least you guys have your kids in pants! My boy absolutely refuses to be dressed at all - not one stitch. We have not left the house in days, probably weeks. Of course this allows him 24/7 access to his penis, which he takes FULL advantage of. He is constantly touching himself. Don't feel so bad. You could be in my boots.
My son used to do that a couple years ago. They eventually stop. He would do it outside of his clothes. He tried to put his hands down his pants once and we asked what he was doing and told him that you don't put your hands down your pants and told him to wash his hands because that is where you go pee. A hint for you......jeans....sweats and soft pants have easier access. It gets to be a habit with them if you don't stop it.
My 3 year old has his down the BACK of his pants all the time...Ugh! I don't know what I'll do when he starts putting them down the front all the time!
Oh my!I am glad to hear we are not the only ones with this problem.Our 5 year old son does this all the time!He has his hands in his pants in public and at home. We have tried to explain to him that it is fine to do that in private but not in public.So far we haven't had any luck.
my son is 15 months old and he constantly plays with himself when i'm changing his diapers. however when i pull his hand away to close his diaper he stops. he always has a diaper on and shorts or pants. he sometimes takes his pants off and walks around in just a diaper. every now and again i'll catch him trying to stick his hands in his diaper but when i see it i just ask him what he's doing. he always stops and looks at me like he wasnt doing anything. but now he doesnt really try to get into his diaper, but he pulls on the back of it. its like he wants to but wont unless his diaper is off. so i've managed to keep him from playing with it all the time. so he knows bath time and diaper changes are the ONLY time i will allow him to touch himself and play with it. i'm just glad my son hasnt become as overwhelming as your son. i figure if i keep on top of his wanting to touch himself he wont be so inclined to play with himself when he's older.
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I was hoping this thread was here!
Trent (4.5) has started the past couple of weeks playing with his 'new toy' and it is driving me out of my mind! Every time I catch him and I make stop, but its getting so frustrating and embarrassing! And if he doesnt have winky out in the open playing with it, he is constantly playing around by grabbing his pants or hitting at his pants in that area!
I have no idea where he has gotten this from... the playing with it, I can sort of understand but never thought it would be at this age... but the grabbing and hitting and pointing to his 'area' has really blind sided me and he does it all the time any where...
Tell me they grow out of this!
Quoting sharebearII:
At least you guys have your kids in pants! My boy absolutely refuses to be dressed at all - not one stitch. We have not left the house in days, probably weeks. Of course this allows him 24/7 access to his penis, which he takes FULL advantage of. He is constantly touching himself. Don't feel so bad. You could be in my boots.
I have the same issue with mine. I find myself saying, "Stop touching your penis!" all the time! It's his own private worry stone. *sigh*
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JMO, but I don't worry too much about my three year old sticking his hands down his pants. He mostly does it when he's bored or sitting watching tv. When I see him, I make him stop. I really don't see it as anything more than it is. As my husband says, it's "coming alive" and it's natural for him to be curious. My husband is not still walking around with his hands in his pants, so I feel sure it won't last long. Sometimes I think that by over reacting to an undesirable behavior, we draw too much attention to it and make things worse. Just make him stop and move on.
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on Jan. 14, 2009 at 5:09 PM