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(Long Story) Help! Very tired, 2 year old waking every night.

Posted by on Mar. 26, 2013 at 11:12 PM
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Ever since my son was born, I've tended to his every need. I want to do whatever I can to make my son happy and stress free.

I've never had a problem putting my son to bed. Every night at 9pm is quiet time. I dim all the lights in living room and ask him to find his blankie. I'll put on a show.. Sesame Street or something else. We sit together in the rocking recliner and watch a show until he falls to sleep. He's almost always in bed and sleeping at 9:30pm. I've been lectured over and over again that I should not do this. That I should put him down half asleep and blah blah blah. I do this with my son because it's always worked for him. I'm content with how his bed time goes, it is not inconvient for me.

OKAY.. so down to the problem.

My son will be 2 in June. He has ocassionally woken up in the middle of the night, I soothe him then he has no problem going back to sleep. He normally sleeps from 9:30pm until about 8am!! So the past few weeks, he has been waking up every single night!! Somewhere between 3-5am. I don't know what to do it is so exhausting. I find myself crossing my fingers that he will just go back to sleep. When he used to wake up on occasion I would go to his room change his diaper and rock him to sleep. Then he would sleep until the morning.

Lately.. is different. He wakes up crying for me or my husband and wants to be held. We go to rock him but when we think he is asleep and put him down in his crib. He flips out screaming! We could do this countless times in one times. A couple times we gave up and brought him to bed with us... which I really dont like! So after a week trying to get up and soothe him.,.. and it not helping.. I decided to take family's advice and let him cry it out. That's not working either. He just gets more and more upset and angry the longer i let his cries go untended. I lay in bed wondering how long i should let him cry.. wondering what to do. We both end up tired the next day! So some one told me to get ear plugs... it seems so cruel!!


( Quick note: my son has always slept with radio playing quietly and night light on. Also he is starting to get back teeth in.. doesnt seem to be bothered by it during the day tho )

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by New Member on Mar. 26, 2013 at 11:18 PM
Is he still taking a nap? My ds is 2 also (I still rock him to sleep every night too!) On days when he misses his nap he wakes up in the middle of the night and is hard to get back to sleep. Also, he may be having bad dreams. You may consider cutting out sugars after 6 ish, like juice, cookies, even fruit. Good luck!
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by New Member on Mar. 26, 2013 at 11:28 PM
It's good to know there are other mommies out there that still rock their little ones to sleep.. my close relatives act like its such a bad thing. My son takes a nap everyday usually around the same time..I want to say around 2pm. His naps last about 1 1/2 to 2 hours. I'll try to cut out sweets after 6pm. I hope that helps. DO you think teeth coming in could be causing this problem?
by on Mar. 27, 2013 at 1:15 AM

LOL Mine is nearly 3 and I still let her sleep a few minutes on my chest!  I missed our cuddle time like that when she was a baby and somehow re-started it although at night it doesnt work. 

I think it actually may be separation anxiety which comes at various times in their life.  try giving him something you have worn say a pajama shirt, so he will have Mommy scent for comfort.  I also still give my daughter a massage with lavender lotion.  Who wouldnt pass out after a full body massage??

The issue I have with television is that the light from the television mimics the ultraviolet light from the sun and actually can stimulate wakefulness rather than sleep, so maybe just alter the brightness level on the television. 

It could also be night terrors when they arent truly awake but are having a crying fit and these usually occur during some transition in their life such as my eldest had hers first occur when she first started pre-school.

If it is a diaper change issue, maybe beat him to the punch by changing him around 11pm.

Teething could be a problem but I doubt it truly.

by New Member on Mar. 27, 2013 at 4:22 PM

is it possible he's hungry? when is he eating last in relation to bedtime? How about a snack at 8:30??

by New Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 3:00 PM
Dude. It's the teeth! Wait it out, don't worry about bringing him to bed with you for those few weeks, and he'll get back to normal when the molars pop through. Give him some motrin or tylenol when he wakes up, too. Those suckers hurt!
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by New Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 3:01 PM
Oh, and he's not bothered during the day because he's too busy. Toddlers play through the pain, but hurt at night.
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by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 3:13 PM

OH oh oh, so so sorry.  I know this is very hard.  Wtih my first son , I tried the crying it out thing as recommended even by some developmental specialists, but while it "worked",  and he eventually stopped crying, I feel, as a clinician now, that it did have long term impact on him.  I wish I hadn't done it as it was so so very hard on me and on him, and I think the reality that my anxiety and pain over having to leave him crying only increased his anxiety as well.  Very hard to stay emotionally regulated when your child isn't!!  They tend to need less sleep as they age you know, so you might try reducing  naps, keeping him moving during the day, providing lots of extra love and cuddling and holding during the day to reassure him, then gradually working with him on safety when he is left alone during the day in crib/playpen etc.  Separation anxiety can start very early and often has alot to do with the anxiety of parents who communicate this anxiety to their children.  If you can be sure and confident and loving and empathic no matter what your choices, he will read that from you.  I fyou know it is okay to let him learn what to do and how to do it while he is on his own in crib and playpen playing during day and yet he learns you are clearly there and attending to him off and on and gradually increase time doing this yet continue being empathic and stable and communicating to him your "presence" even if it is outside the playpen playing hide and seek, etc., and getting him laughing, and laying on floor with him off and on while he is in playpen, he will get more and more confident of separation period and start exploring his world of toys and objects.  Then this should convert to more safety at night and the ability to soothe him from outside the crib.  Prayers going up for you and him Mamma!!!  So so very hard nad you both need your sleep.  Sometimes they just have to learn to fall asleep on their own during the day to transition into it at night.  Blessings!!!

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