My daughter is 2 and I try really hard to set limits and boundaries that are appropriate for her age. Maybe I'm a bit inflexible, but I know that without being told "no" she'll be out of control. My husband, on the other hand, is tired when he comes home and will do anything to placate her, including completely undermining me. He says I'm too strict for her age; maybe he's right, but I don't think it's every too early to set limits.
So then, there's my mother-in-law. I absolutely love her like she were my own mother; she is the dearest woman, but she gives my daughter absolutely anything she wants to keep her happy. It would be one thing if she lived far away and spoiled her twice a year, but she's 5 blocks away and sees her every day. I don't mind telling my husband to respect my rules, but I'm not at all comfortable telling my mother in law not to enable my daughter. My husband (big surprise) won't talk to his mom about this for anything. He and his brothers were all placated throughout childhood and into adulthood. He sees no problem. I see a 14-year-old with an eyebrow piercing...
Interestingly, when we flew out to see my parents, they were strict with my daughter like they were with me. By the end of 2 weeks, her behavior had improved.
on Apr. 23, 2013 at 7:05 AM