The trouble with sibling fights

[Beada]

Hello ladies. I have a problem with my two oldest daughters, ages who are 25 and 28. A couple of years ago they began fighting over a situation that may or may not have happened. The arguments involve their husband and boyfriend and it has literally made me sick. I am seriously considering going to a shrink. They each think I should be totally supportive to their plight and I refuse to take a side with either of them. 
My husband is returning from Afghanistan this Wednesday, and we are planning a get together with family and friends this weekend. I would love to have them come but I don't want any stress for my husband to deal with. He has had enough just being deployed.
I have prayed, unending, about this problem with the girls. There are times during my prayers that I feel that I am begging.
Am I missing something? Why do I not feel peace about this situation? I can honestly say that it has become an obsession with me.
HELP

[n2motherhood]

Oh yes siblings....the love hate relationship that sometimes happens between them.  It's hard being the mom of a situation where 2 of your children are at opposition with each other.  I don't have any answer for you I'm sorry, but I feel you pain. 
My sister and I had a falling out, and I am trying to get things worked out between us, we are talking, but there still is a feeling of caution, as I fear something happening to backslide all the progression we've made.  Hoping she is an sincere in fixing our fallout as I am.
I think of the scriptures especially when I am faced with problems with my children.  I think of Lehi and Sarah and even though they were Godly people and good parents, their children didn't always get along.  I think it is something we all long for to have our children love each other as we love them.  I believe it's possible, but it has to begin with each of them (to all have that desire of Christ like Love and Forgiveness for each other.)

Hope your weekend turns out with peace and thankfulness and love toward one another.
n2

[Melymel62]

I know you want to have peace in your family, but sometimes that is not always possible.  I think you are taking the right stance, by not taking sides.  It is their issues to work out, afterall they are adults.  My sister has a similar situation with her grown daughters (ages 28 and 34).  There have been issues with boyfriends (now husbands) and it really caused a huge issue with my sister, but she just basically told them to work it out.  I feel for you and am sorry to see you go through this.  You might want to invite them, but tell them to leave their "trash" at the door, especially when your DH has just been deployed.  You are right, he doesn't need that headache!  Good luck.

P.S.  Keep praying, it never hurts to pray for guidance.

[Beada]

Thanks for your reply. How stupid am I? Praying for guidenc actually never crossed my mind. And I have been a LDS member for over 30 years now.

[Melymel62]

Quoting Beada:

Thanks for your reply. How stupid am I? Praying for guidenc actually never crossed my mind. And I have been a LDS member for over 30 years now.

That made me laugh!  I never thought of it either until recently.  I always have known to pray for certain things, like keeping peace, having understanding, but never guidance!  You can ask Heavenly Father for anything.  He listens.  He answers, maybe not in the way you want him to, but He does. 

No way are you stupid!  LOL  That's why I am glad we have these boards to get advice/input, whatever, you want to call it, but most of all, we know we can rely on one another.

I hope things have gotten better for you.