Everyone's Little Tips

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  • skyeprince
  on Dec. 12, 2008 at 3:48 PM

• I just came across this wonderful site that gives great advice to parents of kids in elementary school. There's videos & some written pieces but I just saw they added a video on discipline. Check it out:

  
  

  http://thek5.com/blog/2008/12/10/wed-like-to-give-our-daughters-teacher-a-gift-for-the-holidays-whats-the-protocol-do-we-do-something-individually-or-as-a-class-and-whats-appropriate/
  

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  • 5LLadies4BBoys
  on May. 6, 2009 at 1:57 AM

• When ever I see my kids about to do wrong or they ask, I never say NO.  I just look at them, concerned, & say I really that would be a good idea. I use this on the smaller kids, not my older ones. On the older kids, I tell them that, as teenagers, i have did my job as raising them & its time to test them & see if I have done my job. If they make the wrong decision, i will tell them they did. If they make the same mistake again, I will punish them.
  

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  • Noahs-Mom
  on May. 9, 2009 at 12:47 PM

• I try to not say 'no' to my kids.... I say 'please don't' or if it is serous I say 'enough.'

  Something I have done with my toddler is help him identify his feelings.... when he gets upset or flustered and crying or yells I say 'I understand honey that you are -upset frustrated.- If I know why it has happened like he is tried or not feeling well I identity that as well.... 'because your tired, not feeling well ect.' It has seemed to help. I hope it helps him understand those emotions.... I always tell him that I am sorry he is upset. If I can help him I offer to.... but it is posed as a question.... 'I am so sorry you are upset because your tired can I help you with that?' He will instantly calm down and wait for help.....

  Also I use TO with both kids -more the older- his time spent in TO is up to him. It normally happens when he acts out due to frustration. If he starts screaming and can't calm down I will give him a few moments. If he doesn't settle down then I will move him to his room. Again I identity the steps 'Im sorry that you are so upset. Please calm down or I will move you to your room.' I then do so taking his comfort items to him.... I ask him to let me know when he is done.

  I do not expect him to stay on his bed... if he wants or needs to play quitely that is fine.... When he has collected himself to a point where HE is comfortable then he comes to his doorway and tells me 'Mama I all done?' I always make a point of telling him I am so glad he is done with his TO and that he is a good boy and I missed him.

  I noticed the other day that he hasn't had a TO in over a month....
  

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  • Mercedus
  on Sep. 10, 2009 at 8:28 PM

• I have found that being calm is hard when you are stressed out...yes I know big duh. The thing of it is when you are stressed every little thing seems like a transgression on the part of the child.

  One of the things I do is a reward for giving me a time out. If I feel stressed I simply tell my kids I need some quiet time. I set a timer for about 15 min and read a book, do a puzzle whatever. If they respect my quiet time with minimal noise and no fighting I let them pick out a treat.

  The kicker is my five year old sometimes tells me he needs quiet time and he gets the timer. At the end he gives me a hug and says thank you.

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  • jsumner
  on Sep. 11, 2009 at 9:41 AM

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  Quoting JoGibson:
  
  I have a son with ADHD and we use a jelly bean jar method.
  
  I fill the jar with sugar free jelly bellys at the start of each month nd when he does good he gets a jelly bean out of the jar.  When he does bad I remove a jelly bean from the jar.  For some reason the physical jar being there serves as a very good reminder for him.
  
  Also the jar is portable and comes with us when we go to anothers home.

  does this work for you? its a good idea
  

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  • jsumner
  on Sep. 11, 2009 at 9:43 AM

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  Quoting jsumner:
  
  

   

  Quoting JoGibson:
  
  I have a son with ADHD and we use a jelly bean jar method.
  
  I fill the jar with sugar free jelly bellys at the start of each month nd when he does good he gets a jelly bean out of the jar.  When he does bad I remove a jelly bean from the jar.  For some reason the physical jar being there serves as a very good reminder for him.
  
  Also the jar is portable and comes with us when we go to anothers home.

  does this work for you? its a good idea

  you know what else will work is a bag full of dollar store items, put a blindfold on the child  and let him pick a prize
  

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  • peanut06
  on Oct. 12, 2009 at 1:46 AM

• To keep from freaking out my 13-mo-old when she has something dangerous like scissors (or just the telephone and she's trying to call Australia LOL), I don't bark, "NO!  You can't have that!"  I ASK her, "Can you give that you Mommy/Daddy/Mimi, please?  Thank you."  Even if I have to help it from her hands, it's done gently and I still say thank you for complying with the request.  If she looks like she's fixing to get upset because she had to relinquish her newest prize, we just move on to the next coolest thing, whatever that toy/book/thing driving down the street is.  And, after that, I'm usually more aware of wherever said objects are, too.

  Clara

  

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