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Meeting with adopting family tonight for dinner

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pretygurl

on Nov. 22, 2009 at 1:22 PM

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Tonight the adopting family is coming intown to visit, this will be our 3rd visit. They are so nice, I feel lucky.

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pretygurl

on Nov. 22, 2009 at 1:22 PM

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Bronze Member on Nov. 22, 2009 at 1:39 PM

I hope you have an enjoyable dinner and get to know them better.

coolestmomeva

Member on Nov. 22, 2009 at 1:42 PM

are you nervous? i know i always was..even though i liked them & knew they were the ones....meeting was still hard..

HeatherWard

Member on Nov. 22, 2009 at 4:30 PM

Have a wonderful time!!

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LuvAdoptedKids

on Nov. 22, 2009 at 5:54 PM

OH man... totally enjoy yourself and try to relax and be yourself. There is a very special relationship between you and it's very cool that you guys are building on it. Awesome!!!

Tracy Waring

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living4harper

New Member on Nov. 23, 2009 at 12:26 AM

Remember You guys are family now. Just be yourself, and I'm glad that you are happy and confident you choose the right family. Life has it ups and downs and as long as you know you made the right decision, it's going to carry through. Take lots of pictures, and be sure to send them emails, especially if there is any changes in your health for it might cause genetic problems later on in life. Enjoy yourself, this is a family celebration! Let me know how it turns out.

pretygurl

Member on Nov. 23, 2009 at 1:42 AM

Dinner went great!! I felt more open this time to speak about the labor and delievery process and what I want out of it. I asked them if they had choosen a name and they had. They are naming him Maddox Cole (which is my last name) Hibbs. I was shocked in a good way that they decided to give him my last name as his middle. They will be back next month to visit again. Thanks for all the encouraging words. This is them at our first meet up with their first adopted daughter. She is now 8 months.

ashleigh139

Member on Nov. 23, 2009 at 8:53 AM

How cute! Do they have an open adoption with her parents? I know one reason I chose my sons parents is because they have an open adoption with their first childs bparents, and they had pictures of them all together in their profile!

I hope you guys continue to have a great relationship :)

pretygurl

Member on Nov. 23, 2009 at 6:03 PM

I am not due until Feb. we are just building a relationship now so that after the birth our open adoption plans run smoothly.

Anne28

on Nov. 24, 2009 at 10:42 AM

Don't mean to be negative, but meeting with each other does not guarantee the open adoption plans will run smoothly. I wish you much luck and I hope they do run as expected so you and your child benefit.

randi1978

Bronze Member on Nov. 24, 2009 at 12:36 PM

Ask for contact info on their first child's birthmother. See what she has to say and see how she feels about it.

Pre birth matching is a croc and coersive. Just because they have open-ness with one or are being all kind with you now doesn't mean that is what it will be after YOUR baby is in their arms.