Welcome to the birthmom group! I have been reading the recent posts and want to remind you that you have come to the birthmom group and need to respect our stories and feelings. We welcome all to come here to listen and learn from our experiences. If you are looking for a group that will talk about how wonderful it is, I suggest you go to an adoption agency board. The stories you will see here are reality from the side which was told to never tell anyone "birthmoms". You will not hear us spout how happy we are that our children were taken.
In reality, the MAJORITY of us were forced, coerced, threatened, etc into signing our children away. Please sit back now and imagine if YOU were the person who had your child kidnapped from you. Imagine how you would feel if the child you now have, was kidnapped and with held from you. Now look at us with compassion. These are not bitter angry women who did not want thier children. We were traumatized beyond what any of you can imagine. We had NO choice. Whether it was from no family or social support to being drugged, physically restrained during birth or just plain lied to by agencies, do not doubt...our children were stolen.
Please mind what you say.
raised mom to 2, first mom to 1