Going crazy because the stupid woman has extended her mini vacation.Compassion must not be her strong suit cause whats one more day to getting around to searching for an address or phone number when you screwed up for the past 15 + years.
Frogdawg and I chatted through pm and as she said if it had been the stupid women's child she would have never screwed up and would be searching constantly but because it is a birthmother...
surviving on the edge one moment at a time
Emily
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when you call her and email her her auto email response says she is checking all her messages and responding as time permits. while she is away.Truly don't understand ,my husband was able to access all his companies files from his lap when he was in Turkey and she is in a city in our state...just access and send the damn info.We crafted with help from my uncle a firm but polite email requesting they cough up the agencies screw up when contacting him.She was also reminded he came looking and they disregarded the feelings of an adoptee and his family...15 years that can never come back.Quoted their mission statement to her.I decided to follow my rheumatologist and psychiatrist's advice and am on full dose tranquilizers still not sleeping much..I would like to avoid a serious flare of my Lupus , I am out of remission and this is not helping.Babbling again sorry .THANK YOU FOR ALL THE SUPPORT
i'm very sorry you are soo close, but feel so far away with all this... keep your eye on the days when the screw up may or may not be a factor (not try'n to put words or feelings in you mind) and you see that it was worth it.. you are very lucky, some birthmoms and adoptees don't even get this far, good possibility we all know why now.. aka (stupid woman). you now will be able to focuse on building a relationship you both have wanted. (since he was also looking for you). i hope your reunion is all that you hoped and imagined it would be!! thought and prayers for you both.
Quoting vampporcupine:
I was going to ask today but figured you would update when you had the info.
Same here, Emily. Didn't want to push without letting you post first. I'm sorry that she's done this. When is she supposed to be back? I agree with PP that when you hear, see, hold your oldest, these past days of frustration will disappear. Praying for you. Hoping you hear from SW very soon. :)
PS-IF you feel that they are jerking you around, ask to speak to a supervisor. Seems like anyone could retrieve a file.....just sayin'.
I'm still thinking of you and hoping for a quicker response.
Hugs hun!
Me, too. How long exactly is a "mini-vacation"? Tomorrow is Thursday for heaven's sake. Are you looking at next week? When will you know? Hang in there and know that we are still loving you and hoping that you will have the info very soon. :)
I'm so sorry you were lifted up, only to be knocked down again. I hope venting can help a little bit. We're all here for you. I hope you can get some needed rest soon.
So frustrating! "As time permits", puh-leeze. Ugh. I hope that the email gets seen soon, but what if you also send the email as a certified letter to her requiring her to sign? Or a nice "follow-up" letter by certified mail? I know that she should have given you this info almost a week ago, but I don't want her turning a week into a month or even longer. Unfortunately, you are seemingly at the mercy of an unmerciful person who has the ability to fix this. I truly hope you make it through the next few days w/o a Lupus flare-up. Take a deep breath, relax (lol-I know....), and take care of yourself. Xoxo :)
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