Feeling Emotional

[2jeffsmom]

I don't understand it. I've needed to talk about my son more the past week, but get shut down. A couple of people have changed the subject quickly, including my sister, who usually listens. So, I just stop, and have to suffer inside alone. I know my husband can tell I need to talk, but it hurts him too much to bring it up. He'll ask if I'm o.k., but I know he's hoping it won't be about "that".

I wish there was a support group close by. I think the closest would be Seattle. I think if there was something in Olympia, I could do that.

I'm thinking a lot about seeing my son in September, and trying to imagine what I'll say and do. I'm so afraid I'll do something wrong. I want to be honest with him about how I feel, without him feeling pressured. If love could heal us, it would be done.

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[onethentwins]

Here's a list of WA support groups from the AAC:

WA Adoption Reunion Movement (WARM) Seattle, WA 1st Wednesday, 7:00 p.m. 206-767-9510

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WA Adoption Reunion Movement (WARM) Puyallup, WA 3rd Tuesday, 7:00 p.m. [e-mail]

A Loving Journey Federal Way, WA Treina Stauffer, 253-874-1546 [e-mail]

Scattered Roots Olympia, WA Jodi McBride, 360-357-6681 www.scatteredroots.org

SW Washington Adoption Support Vancouver, WA 1st Wednesday Darlene Wilson, 360-256-8795 [e-mail]

Three Roots Triad Group Seattle, WA 2nd Wednesday, 7:00 p.m. Rachel Stumme, 206-371-7573 www.three-roots.com/groups

[2jeffsmom]

Thank you so much for the info! I appreciate it, and will look into this.

[Vikki77]

So sorry you are not able to talk to anyone around you. I hope you can join one of those groups and get the help you need. And of course you can always come here. Lots of hugs!

[ZakkarysMom]

I dont think you could do or say anything wrong. Just be honest and open. Im sure you are very worried and that would be expected. Maybe if you wrote down your feelings and what you wanted to say. Then maybe look over it when the time comes closer to see him. Im happy for you that you will be seeing him.

[2jeffsmom]

Thank you Zacharysmom! I really appreciate the advise, and will use it.

[DVT]

I hope you find a support group close to you.  That's awful to be shut down by friends/family.  We're always here to listen to you as well ;)  I love what Zacharysmom said too.  I'd think he's wondering what it will be like as well and how much to reveal to you on the first visit.  Just remember, not everything comes out the first time.  Some stuff I didn't even hear about until I had gotten home after the first visit because they didn't want to overload me with too much info and gradually ease it on me.  I'm glad they did - I learned a couple of doozies I didn't expect.  Thinking of you as the visit comes up.  Take care.