Today me and my bf were discussing the daughter he has that was placed for adoption.
He was 19 at the time. The girl was the same and was also married at the time.
She had split with her husband and was with bf at the time she was pregnant.
They are both positive that this was his baby.
I just got the story from him....
So when the baby was born, the husband who is not the father signed consent.
My bf didnt have the option of signing anything and the only reason he knew of the adoption was she called him after papers were signed.
She told him that her husband signed consent and stated to him that because they were married that her husband had more rights than he himself did.
If I'm missing parts of the story which I'm sure I am let me know and I'll clarify.
Bf told me that they argued a lot for awhile and he wouldn't talk to her, mind you they were 19/20 yrs old.
She finally mailed him pics of his daughter and did up until she was 4.
She is now 8. And hasn't heard anything since.
The baby's mom ran into him at his job and gave her number to him.
He asked her questions and wanted to know if she had heard anything.
She said no bcuz she hasn't updated her address to the adoption agency.
He asked her the name and number of the place and she wouldn't give him the info.
She said to him that he can't call because he isn't on the paperwork.
So him n I were just talking about all this and I was just wondering what you all thought about this.
Apparently it's too late to do anything legally.
He has stated more than enough times that he would want to see his daughter.
Hes very stable and is a good person.
I just wanted to see what you all though about this?
I've been talking to him all day about this cuz "she" has still been textin him.
Just random stuff,nothing serious.
He was 19 at the time. The girl was the same and was also married at the time.
She had split with her husband and was with bf at the time she was pregnant.
They are both positive that this was his baby.
I just got the story from him....
So when the baby was born, the husband who is not the father signed consent.
My bf didnt have the option of signing anything and the only reason he knew of the adoption was she called him after papers were signed.
She told him that her husband signed consent and stated to him that because they were married that her husband had more rights than he himself did.
If I'm missing parts of the story which I'm sure I am let me know and I'll clarify.
Bf told me that they argued a lot for awhile and he wouldn't talk to her, mind you they were 19/20 yrs old.
She finally mailed him pics of his daughter and did up until she was 4.
She is now 8. And hasn't heard anything since.
The baby's mom ran into him at his job and gave her number to him.
He asked her questions and wanted to know if she had heard anything.
She said no bcuz she hasn't updated her address to the adoption agency.
He asked her the name and number of the place and she wouldn't give him the info.
She said to him that he can't call because he isn't on the paperwork.
So him n I were just talking about all this and I was just wondering what you all thought about this.
Apparently it's too late to do anything legally.
He has stated more than enough times that he would want to see his daughter.
Hes very stable and is a good person.
I just wanted to see what you all though about this?
I've been talking to him all day about this cuz "she" has still been textin him.
Just random stuff,nothing serious.
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on Sep. 21, 2012 at 4:01 AM
I was thinking something like that because my best friend got married at 14 shes now 25 & her.& her husband have been seperated since she was 16 divorce has just been too expensive but to my point sorry she has had 2 kids since then & neither of the bio Dads were allowed to.sign the birth certificate since she was married!! I thought this was so weird but her 2nd childs father has to pay child support so idk if that means he does have rights to the child!!?? Sorry Im not more helpful but that is.just the little I do know!!
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on Sep. 21, 2012 at 12:54 PM
Doesn't seem right does it..?
It's crazy.
I do know that my bf hasn't given up in hopes that he will see her one day.
We talk about it often.
It's crazy.
I do know that my bf hasn't given up in hopes that he will see her one day.
We talk about it often.
Quoting MissingChloe03:
I was thinking something like that because my best friend got married at 14 shes now 25 & her.& her husband have been seperated since she was 16 divorce has just been too expensive but to my point sorry she has had 2 kids since then & neither of the bio Dads were allowed to.sign the birth certificate since she was married!! I thought this was so weird but her 2nd childs father has to pay child support so idk if that means he does have rights to the child!!?? Sorry Im not more helpful but that is.just the little I do know!!
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on Sep. 21, 2012 at 3:44 PM
Well, when I was pregnant and my parents took me to the adoption agency they asked if the father would give up his rights. I didn't know, we weren't together and he wasn't around. They all said we will figure it out, there are ways around that.
If I knew the bfather wouldn't give up his rights and that there was a chance I would be giving my baby to him while signing my rights away, I would have backed out no matter what. The only reason I was signing my rights away was because I was brainwashed into believing I wouldn't be a good mother and that my child deserved better. SO my thoughts were if my child deserves better than me there is no way in hell the father is better off. (He was in jail 2 weeks before delivery). I look back and wish he had fought because we would be raising our child now.
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Good news for all.
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on Sep. 20, 2012 at 2:22 AM