Would you help your child have a relationship with their birth dad?
First of...sorry that I haven't been on here in a long while. I have made amends with my mom who adopted my daughter at birth. She let me raise her, then one day 4 years ago my mom took my daughter physically away from me. Recently, we made amends. I told her that I don't agree with what she did. Her excuse was...I thought that was what was best for both of you at that time...regardless...that isn't why Im making this post. After my mom took my daughter, my mom decided that it was time for my daughter to finally met her birth dad. When my daughter was about 8 or 9 she met her birth dad. They had a few visits and she hasn't seen or heard from him since. She will be 11 in a few weeks...
Last weekend, my mom told me that her birth dad has been trying to contact my daughter, but my daughter doesn't know it. He wants my daughter to finally meet his family especially his parents. My mom claims that my daughter has no interest in knowing him or having a relationship with him. Due to my mom's track record of not telling the complete truth, I asked my daughter a few questions about her birth dad. From what I could tell, she has no clue that he has been trying to contact her. If she could have a relationship with him, then she would like to have a relationship with him...however, he let her down before and so she is scard to make it known that she wants a relationship with him. She said it would be nice to have visits with him once in awhle.
So...my question is...should I step in and help her have a relationship with him or do I leave it up to my mom (her adopted mom) to make that decision?