Sorry I took so long but I got sick again on the way home.Maybe a reaction to the stress but it went great !!! He came for breakfast both Sat and Sunday ,hung around ,showed us around the city he lives in,then gave us the "buck tour" of the town he grew up in about an hour away.We met his parents and went out for Tex-Mex and back for desert at their house.They were friendly and sent my teens home loaded with homemade goodies.She did something just so thoughtless I can't figure her out.It was /is clear they took 1000's of pictures of him over the year.He is an only child.They have a shelf of albums but the one she had taken out and the only one she showed me was the one of the formal steps of adoption.Meeting with SW to take him home ,signing papers ,the adoption itself with the judge .It is odd because I guess if she was going to show me pictures it would be of scouts ,baseball, hunts ,bday parties and if it was about the adoption the welcome party with all the family not the process of me ending being his mother and her becoming his mom.It was amazingly painful.It does hurt a bit when I look at the FB album he made for me but it also makes me smile to see him doing his kid stuff.This was just painful.I glued my smile on ,my daughter could tell so she would try to change the topic but she was determined to tell me each step as he became theirs.
After that we went back to the hotel around 9.He came up and all 5 played Risk and another game before he went home.Sun we went to see a known touristy attraction ,lunch for a couple hours then to B.N. coffee shop for another hour.There he apologized again for not searching harder apologized for going so slow once contact was made and we trashed the agency for lying to both of us for 17 years.I assured him that by simply contacting the agency 17 years ago he had fulfilled everything I had wanted him to do towards reunion.
Then YAY YAY YAY he says that when his youngest cousin graduated from college in May he thought he was done with attending graduations but now between his brothers and sister he has at least 2 more h.s. graduation and 3 more college graduations to sleep through. : ) : ) : ) : ) : )
He is a landman and does some prof tech writing on the side.He is a frustrated author so yesterday in FB notes he writes the story of the path and our meeting.He ends it by saying he is one of the lucky adoptees to be a member of both his families.As of a few minute ago 37 comments and only one negative one.Most are along the lines of how lucky he is to be a part of two loving families .
I am so happy I truly never thought I would ever have any knowledge ever.Then somehow the loss hits and all I want to do is cry.Then happy again then...
Anyway thank you all .For the support ,the knowledge ,the insight ,the safe vent place and with out this group I would have never met the woman that intervened with the agency and stopped 17 years of lies.
THANK YOU and love yall.