"When does the Winning Begin?"
I can't count how many times I've heard "adoption ... it's a win/win situation."Well, please tell me when does the winning begin for me.
Does it begin at birth when I held him in my arms and said goodbye?
Does it begin when I walk out of the hospital in so much pain it hurt to breathe?
Does it begin when Thanksgiving rolls around, and no one sets a place for him?
Does it begin when searching through all the lovely wrapped presents under the Christmas tree, but none have his name on it?
Does it begin on Mother's Day, and I look in the mirror and feel hollow because I am not mothering my son?
Does it begin when a pregnant gal
is talking about her experiences and then says, Oh, you've never been
pregnant! You wouldn't know/understand?
Does it begin when I get invitations for baby showers for my friends?
Does it begin when I search the rack of cards, and have to pass over the ones labeled "to my SON"?
Does it begin as I spend hours
searching stores and the internet trying to find a birthday gift that
might be meaningful to my son, whom I do not even know?
Does it begin when I go to church and see the proud parents holding their child on 'child dedication Sunday'?
Does it begin when he got his first tooth, and I did not put it under his pillow?
Does it begin when he rides his bike for the first time?
Does it begin when he smiles sheepishly as he heads off to his first day of school?
Does it begin when he runs in the house and yells a loud cheer that school's out and summer's here?
Does it begin when he has his 16th birthday, and I don't get an invitation to the celebration?
Does it begin when he has his first date? His first sweetheart? His first innocent kiss? and I've never met her?
Does it begin when he walks down
the aisle in his cap and gown, and I'm not in the stands trying to
figure out which one he is in the sea of graduates?
Does it begin when he decides if he wants to pursue college or follow a different path to his dream career?
Does it begin when he's 18, and he can search for me, unless his aparents are insecure and question his loyalty?
Does it begin with a reunion when
two strangers look each other in the eyes and find out this
'relationship' is a lot of hard work?
Please tell me, just when will it begin.
In my mind it feels like a sensationalized sports game.
I walk out onto the field, no helmet, kneepads or shin guards.
The lights are flipped on, and I'm blinded by the brightness.
You can feel the tension in the air.
Out on the field I see the opponents.
Those who told me I would get over it.
Those who told me how brave and selfless I was.
Those who told me my baby deserved better than me as a mother.
Those who sold my child to fill their profit pocketbooks.
On the field I see legislatures who were wined and dined to change the
laws. Laws to reduce the number of days a mother could bring her child
back home with her. Laws to keep these precious children from ever
knowing their heritage by blocking them from their own records.
On the field I see NCFA, laughing and sneering at my tiny frame.
I can hear the murmur in the
stands. I turn and see that the stands are filled with fans, cheering,
jeering, and chanting. But they are not fans for a natural mom who lost
her son to adoption. No, they're cheering for the ones already out on
I turn again to look at them, all lined up. They are enormous, and
intimidating. Their expensive uniforms glimmer in the lights. They're
energized by the commotion from the stands.
I step forward, and walk up to the line.
I stand there, one small lone woman, against these heartless giants.
Not one person from the stands dare walk to my side.
I hear the announcer yell, Let the Winning Begin!
There is a roar from the stands.
I'm nearly knocked off my feet
as the referee thrusts his hand through my chest.
I can feel the death grip on my heart as he pulls it out
and tosses it high into the air.
Being experienced, my opponents grab it right away.
They kick and throw my heart all around the field.
They’re screaming with delight every time they score point after point after endless point.
Of course the points are based on all my losses based on the 'winning' questions above.
Please tell me, when will the winning begin for me?
on Feb. 10, 2013 at 7:56 PM